Post # 1
My Fiance and I are not having kids under age 16 at our wedding (ceremony or reception) We have decided that a formal Saturday night affair just isn’t the proper environment, and we want our adult guests (read: parents of the children) to have a great time at our wedding. The problem is most of our friends/relatives who have kids are either coming in from out of town, or their parents are also invited to the wedding as well – so they may not have a sitter for the evening. I don’t want anyone to NOT come to our wedding because their children haven’t been invited… so I want to provide an alternative. Should I research babysitters for our OOTs that they can hire before arranging their travel? What about hiring sitters that will be in the venue or hotel and can babysit there? Is that crazy? Has anyone done this before?
Post # 3
I think that would be a nice gesture! We had no kids at our rehearsal dinner (lots of Out of Town guests), and we ended up hiring a few high school age kids that live on my parents’ street to take all the kids to Chuck E Cheese for the evening. The parents had fun, the kids had fun… it seemed to work for everyone!
It did help that we knew the babysitters though (and weren’t just hiring random people). I think the parents were more comfortable that way. It seems like it would be pretty easy to have a few babysitters at the hotel though!
Post # 4
we ALMOST did the same thing for Out of Town guests. Decided to include the kids. But it would be really nice of you.
Post # 5
When I was in high school I got hired to babysit at a wedding. They didn’t have a no kids rule, but they knew that the kids wouldn’t really have that much fun, so they made goody bags for each of the kids and set us up in a room with Disney movies and games. They also had their caterer make little pizzas for us to eat, and they set those up in the kids room too. They hired three of us to babysit, and we had a blast. The kids had a great time and I think the parents enjoyed being able to drop them off or come get them whenever they wanted since we were at the venue.
Post # 6
I would say NO – don’t hire a sitter. I am in the same situation (guests have kids….we don’t want them at our wedding). I was considering a sitter, but my lawyer cousin (which also recently got married and had a no kids reception) strongly suggested I do NOT hire a sitter for the kids- if (god forbid) anything would happen to the kids, I would be liable since I hired the sitter.
It is not your job to porvide childcare. However, I think it is OK to suggest local sitters to your Out of Town guests and let them set up whatever kind of child care they want to.
Oh, and I had asked a friend of mine (who has kids) and she said that, as much as she loves me, she would feel very uncomfortable leaving her kids with a strange sitter. So even if I hired one, she would probably not use the sitter. (They are leaving their kids with a friend for the weekend, FYI.) Just something else to keep in mind – you could waste a lot of time and money on a service that your guests might not even use.
Post # 7
I agree with PP – most of the people that I polled (since I’m in a similar situation) said that they’d rather just make their own arrangements for childcare. It is inevitable that people will not be able to come to your wedding because of the no-child decision – even if you try to plan for all scenarios.
Most of my friends with children have never left their kids with anyone besides a family member – so the would not even be open to having a certified childcare person watching their kids.