Post # 1
OK, so techically there are not too many “kids” in our circle of family and freinds anyways…However there are some babies and toddlers and kids under 10, mostly from FI’s sides (however I do have 2 nephews ages 3 and 6) My FI and I have decided to do an adults only reception, no chidlren under 16…
I want my guests to have a good time and not worry about children running around and sleeping across 2, 3 chairs by the end of the night…
Now how do I make that visible on my invitations without being rude….. Even though word has spread that it is a no kids wedding…
Post # 3
“Adult reception immediatelyfollowing”. Although, we joked that it sounded a little porn-like.
Post # 4
You can just put “Adults only please”
Post # 5
Adult only reception to follow?
Post # 6
On the RSVP card, I added a line that read:
We are requesting an adult reception. Thank you for your support and understanding.
I tried to stick it in there where if you read the whole card you’ll see it, but it’s not the main thing you look at. Not sure if this pic will show up, but here’s an idea:
Some people will say this goes against etiquette, but I was over that by this point. 🙂
Post # 7
Get response cards printed with “we have reserved ____ seats in your honor”. You fill in the number that goes with each invitation before you send them out. Make sure the invitation is addressed only to the people you are actually inviting (“Mr. and Mrs. John Smith,” not “Smith Family”). If you send a couple an invitation with a response card that says 2 seats, that makes it clear the kids aren’t invited. If people are too dense to figure that out (or just think they can bully you) and RSVP for their kids, you call them immediately and tell them you are sorry for any confusion, but the kids cannot be accommodated. You hope they can still make it, but if not, you understand.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
We received one recently that says “Adult Reception to Follow.” But I do agree with OP about it sounding like we’re going to have strippers and shots.
Post # 9
@sailor: Precisely this.
It isn’t really a good idea to put “Adults only” on an invitation, as it is impolite to point out who is not invited.
Post # 10
Okay, So I too ran into this problem and for fear of sounding mean I didnt write anything like that! What I did instead was wrote “We have reserved x of seats for you. ___ out of X willl be attending.”
Attached is our RSVP’s. Good luck!
Post # 11
@AluvsN4eva: Despite the fact that most bees will advocate putting “adult reception” or something similar on the invitation, it is NOT polite to mention who is not invited anywhere.
You simply do not invite children. Invite all your guests by name, and then follow up with any people who respond that children will be attending.
Spreading this by word of mouth (which it sounds like you are doing already) should really help to keep that under control.
Post # 12
We didn’t put anything on our invites, but we DID put it on our website on the RSVP page: “This is an adults-only celebration. We ask that you please make arrangements if necessary, and if you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to call us!!”
Very to the point, but we haven’t had any problems.
Post # 13
I’d leave it off entirely and call your guests with kids ahead of time to let them know you’re having an adults only wedding. Then I’d put on the RSVP card _ seats have been reserved in your honor. That’s what we did.
Post # 14
@MadTownGirl: Very nice & subtle!!! Thank u
Post # 15
Thank you all!!!!! Very helpful… I was going to be specific with my invites aswell…in terms of addressing it to specific people and not a blank # to be filled in by guests…
Post # 16
I went with the __ of ___ attending, etc. Most people didn’t understand what it meant, unfortunately. Lucky for us, I threw etiquette to the wind and put “adults only, please” on one of the insert cards.