(Closed) No kissing or looking at each other in e-pics?!?!?!

posted 8 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t think you are being unreasonable since most engagement pictures are cuddling or kissing types.  I don’t know what you can do to convince him though.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Maybe you can agree to only a certain number of cuddly kissy ones.  Not all of them have to be that way.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would go through blogs and find examples of couples holding hands, smiling at each other across a table, the girl leaning back against the guy, etc. and show him that there are ways to be close with each other in photos without showing the world your private moments. Or maybe photos of the two of you doing something would be more comfortable for him? Like eating ice cream together or going on the carousel in Bryant Park–more active shots.

I feel like my FI is going to feel very similarly to yours when we get around to discussing the e pics more in detail. He’s very private about things that that (although he’s a fan of PDAs somehow…).

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I agree with hilsy85, have him look and gather some ‘inspiration’ pictures for epics so you can get an idea of what he want.  Maybe it will turn out he dones’t have bad taste or maybe it’ll turn out that they’re just not worth doing if he’s going to be a stick in the mud.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Is he extremely against PDA? If so, I guess I would understand more where he’s coming from. I have a married friend who I have never even seen hold her husband’s hand out in public because she is highly against PDA.

That stinks for you though 🙁 I think e-pics should be fun/romantic.. but my hubby doesn’t like “posed” pics, so he didn’t want e-pics either 😛

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Surely he will ave to get used to being photgraphed looking loving/kissing for your wedding photos anyway?! He may be nervous about looking a bit silly, but it’s best to get comfortable with it now than later…

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

I had a no kissing rule of our photos too. It’s not my style. At your wedding that’s one thing, since it’s completely candid and the beauty of the moment. But I think you can still look romantic without sucking face 🙂 Holding hands, hugs, things like don’t cross the PDA line for me. Would that work?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

If you go with the flow, it may just naturally happen. Maybe you won kiss but you may look at eachother. I also agree with showing him examples.. good ones.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I can understand being a bit disapointed but I don’t think its the end of the world. Honestly I don’t love looking at other people’s kissy kissy pictures. I think they should be kept more privately. Not saying they shouldn’t be taken… but I don’t really think they should be shared as freely as they are. 

I think there are still TONS of cool/cute/romantic poses you could do. What about some photos of him kissing your forehead or cheek? Or hugging? Could that be a compromise between your want for some intimate photos and his being uncomfortable with the PDA?

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2015

getting you two out and about interacting, doing something, laughing and having fun etc…can still work just great. Over the years I’ve only had one couple choose no kissing whatsoever (her choice) and it still worked quite well because they were still having fun. While I’m with you for  some kind of comprimise being good – if he’s that dead set against it I don’t think I would pressure him too much on that.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think there are TONS of cute pictures you can get without going all PDA.  We didn’t really think about this before our epics, but I ended up hating all the ones of us kissing – we are just very unattractive kissers!  For our wedding, I’ll probably ask our photographer (who is awesome – the other pics were GREAT) to avoid those sorts of photos.  Maybe one, during the ceremony. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hmmm, wonder why he’s taken such a stance on that.  I think the picture you posted is so cute and it doesn’t necessarily show two people about to kiss.  They’re just sharing a tender moment.  That being said, if you know how he feels, you don’t want him to feel forced into a particular pose.  All of the shots of the day could be compromised.  There are lots of other romantic shots you can do without kissing.  But that depends on how you define romantic I suppose. 

I tried to post a pic of what I thought could work, totally won’t let me.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We didn’t do any cuddly/romantic type engagement pictures. Just not my thing. But if you want some, then you SHOULD do a mix. It’s just that neither DH or I wanted those kind of photos….they aren’t our thing at all.

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