(Closed) No longer a bm and no longer invited!?!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Been there!!  I had a BM/friend who acted just like this. She made little comments when I started planning about what I HAD to have, and I kept explaining we were paying for everything ourselves. We bought a house and it wasn’t good enough either!! I am 33 years old. She is 24. Now that she is engaged and didn’t ask me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, she started throwing her weight around like MY wedding will have this this and this…uh yeah, your parents are paying for the whole thing while you rent a crappy apartment and have never owned a car or had real bills!! Seriously at 24 she’s still completely dependent on her parents (she’s not in school, and only works part time). She gave me the dis so I had to finally give it back. I tried for way too long! Next

Post # 4
11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i think you are doing the right thing by not having her as a bm or even at the wedding. 

weddings are expensive and it doesn’t sound like she will even appreciate it.  she already doesn’t seem supportive at all.

she doesn’t deserve to be your friend.

Post # 6
1360 posts
Bumble bee

Lol I work front desk at a medical office (well, the emergency room) and I do NOT make enough money to be bragging about anything. Granted, I am in school right now but the pay where I’m at now SUCKS so I don’t see how hers could be better than a licensed nurse. She’s petty and I wouldn’t give her the time of day!

Post # 7
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

It’s sad how this generation is full of entitled people. The worst is when they’re entitled AND too lazy to put in the work in order to fulfill their expectations. They just expect everyone else to fulfill them.


Glad to see bee’s who are hard-working and sane!!!

Post # 9
5405 posts
Bee Keeper

Hahaha ok well she’s obviously lying because nobody has a job while they’re in med school, and  plastic surgeons don’t do surgery during the night lol. She’s got something wrong that she feels the need to lie like this. 

Obviously, I think that you’ve made the right (and probably only) choice. 

Post # 10
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Sounds like this is a person you don’t need at your wedding – or in your life!

Post # 11
1725 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Some people are too much drama! Friendships should be give and take, support…not lies and badmouthing!

Post # 12
13 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

DANGER, DANGER: This person is NOT someone you want to be in your life. I’m guessing you became friends young, or in school, etc… and have grown up together. I find that people that have friends that are histrionics, or compulsive liars, grew up around them and didn’t realize how toxic they were until they really got out on their own. A former best friend of mine was like this, a friend of a friend was like this, etc… I’ve seen this EXACT formula (right down to the “making TONS of money… oh, no you can’t visit me at work” weirdness of not really having the job they say). It’s usually a result of that person’s crippling insecurities. It’s sad; your friend probably is writhing with jealousy and insecurities, and that’s why she’s acting the way she is. She’s not TRYING to hurt you; she’s trying to hurt less. Nonetheless, unless you’re willing to take the time, energy, and stress to talk to her, acknowledge her behavior and lying… then you really are better off without her. These sorts of behaviors are legitimate psychological issues, and though you want to help, sometimes it’s beyond your control. 

Post # 13
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Whoa a piece of work. She is going to make you feel like a terrible person when you tell her.  It’s all a part of her game.  Misery loves company.  Good Luck!

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