Post # 1
Not long ago I posted about how we were considering postponing our wedding. The hive was incredibly supportive and so encouraging. I really thought that we were going to be able to pull off our October wedding as planned.
However, this weekend we were hit with another family issue. Fiance and I finally agreed that we needed some extra time. We have several things going on with both sides of our families and we both feel like we need to be able to spend time helping/supporting our families and also emotionally dealing with the situations ourselves.
My grandfather is in the end stages of cancer and I want to be able to spend time with him withouth worrying about my looming to-do list. Plus, I want my family to have time to heal before trying to put on their happy faces for my wedding. My mother and I have had a strained relationship over the years and my wedding has brought us closer together as we plan. I want to be able to continue to enjoy that with her. Caring for her father during this time is her priority (as it should be!) and so I’d rather not put any extra stress/pressure on her with wedding stuff.
Fiance has been officially laid off as of this week. While we will be able to manage fine on my income alone, it’s still stressful. We don’t want to have to worry about him trying to find a new job that will be flexible with upcoming time off for the wedding.
So, it looks like I’m going to be a spring bride! I know that this is the best decision for us and I’m relieved that we will have time to get everything done but it sucks. A lot! I can’t help but feel really down about it all.
We don’t have a new date yet. We’re thinking some time between late March through May.
Post # 3
I am sorry about your grandfather.
If you are relieved about it then it sounds like it was the right decision for you. As your wedding was something anticipated, of course you are going to feel let down that it will not be happening when you had hoped but at least you wont feel rushed trying to plan and be there emotionally for your family.
You don’t want to spread yourself too thin to where you dont get to enjoy planning one of the biggest days of your life.
Post # 4
I bet your feeling bummed, but like you said, you did what was best for you two, in the end you will have a great wedding and marriage.
Post # 5
@Mrs McCain 2012: That’s kinda what was starting to happen. Fiance and I both were spreading ourselves pretty thin and wedding planning either wasn’t enjoyable or just wasn’t getting done.
Post # 6
I think you will feel all better really soon about the decision you made.
Post # 8
Yes! I agree, I think later you will thank yourself for taking some extratime for you, your fiancé and your family.
Additional benefits (just in case you need a couple more!):
1. Being a spring bride means the whole world is dressed in pretty pastels for yourwedding!
2.) lots of wonderful, affordable flower choices (a friend of mine had daffodils, beautiful!)
3.) more time to DIY!
4.) being married in the spring will be awesome, you’ll have the whole summer to be giddy newlyweds!
5.) imagine the joy on your families’ faces, this could be a really healing event after the passing of your grandfather.
6.) way less pressure on yourself, your mom, your Fiance and your family.
Ok, #1-4 are superficial, but sometimes thinking about the pretty can get us through the dark times. You are strong and smart and you’re doing the best thing for you!
Post # 9
@Mthdgirl: Your list is the perfect pick me up this morning! They are all good points…even the superficial ones, which are pretty awesome!
Transitioning our fall wedding to a spring wedding won’t be terribly difficult since we had picked out blue and orange to be our primary “fall colors.” We can just lighten up the orange a bit and all of the decor that we already have is on the rustic side so we can “springify” it.
Post # 10
((HUGS)) So sorry to hear this but a spring wedding will be beautiful and it’s not too much further off. Sorry to hear about everything you’re facing, I hope things start looking up for you soon. You and your Fiance stick together and you’ll come out even stronger in the end.