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My sister in law did not have a Maid of Honor. We were all close to her in different ways/ times in her life. We all planned a shower together and for her line, she just arranged us by height. If they are all equally close to you, I don't see a need for a MOH.
I have five best friends, and four were all listed as my maids of honour on the program, while my one guy friend was made a groomsman. You shouldn't have to choose, especially if they all mean so much to you. Plus, I know certain people within my group would have been heartbroken if I didn't choose them as my MOH. I had five fabulous friends who stepped up to the plate in their own ways to help prepare for and celebrate my wedding, and I couldn't have been happier.
vnichole - I don't have a maid of honor either! I just have 4 awesome bridesmaids that I didn't want to choose between. =P
Oh, and like mrshudson's SIL, I arranged my MOHs by height! They had personal wars against each other to have the highest heels, though... which was funny since the groom and I are so much shorter than they all are.
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Choosing an MOH was a very stressful situation for me, and if I could go back, I wouldn't do it. I've known most of my BMs for 18 years or more, and there was some serious jealousy going on after I chose. I never realized being MOH could be so important because I do love them all equally. I ended up choosing the one friend I've known longest, 19 years, and he's not the MOH, he's "best friend to the bride." Of course doing that made the others think there was still room for an MOH...it never ends!
we aren't have a maid of honor or a best man either! i'm having 3 close friends as my bridesmaids while he has his two brothers & my brother as his groomsmen. we just couldn't decide & didn't want to!
If I didnt have a sister to choose as a MOH then I dont think I would have chosen at all! It's your wedding! You choose or dont choose whatever you want!
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Do what you want! If I didn't have a sister, I don't think I would be able to choose either! Weddings these days are becoming less and less about "what you have to do" and more of "what you want to do"!
Also, another suggestion of how to line them up is by alphabetical order. I have my only sister, who is my MOH, then it goes in alpha. order from there! Everyone understands and no one feels hurt!
I don't have a maid of honor. I have been equally close to all my bridesmaids at different parts in my life and I didn't want to pick one. I had paired up my girls my my fiance's boys and so when he picked his order, they were lined up that way. I am happy with my decision but there have been a few wrinkles. Since nobody has been assigned, nobody thinks it is their job to give a toast. Also, fiance and I are organizing our bachelor/bachelorette parties ourselves for same reason. I am okay with this, I just thought I'd give you a heads up for things that might come your way.
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No MOH for me either! I have 6 girls (yikes!) who are equally special to me. I know a few would definitely be hurt if I chose one over another. I was thinking about what order to have them walk, so the height/alpha ideas are a big help! I don't think it's a huge deal; it's really just a title and hopefully all the girls you choose will want to contribute just as much as if they had the title of Maid of Honor.
Thanks everyone for your comments and encouragement. I have a follow up question (since I didn't think of this before) Will it be weird to not have a MOH if my FH does have a BM?
I'm not worried about my girls not taking on the necessary tasks of bridal shower and bachelorette party planning, since we've all been in each others weddings and have always made it a team effort! :)
no MOH here either! Six BM, and they're all close to me. The only problem is delegating MOH typical situations. I guess I'll just split them up!
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My fiance has a best man. Thats what made it easy for me to line them up, haha
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i didnt have maid of honor. my best friend is out of the country and she couldnt make it to the wedding so i decided to just have 2 bridesmaids.
i don't really want to pick a maid of honor, but we already have a best man ... i'm curious to see what people think of this too. 
I'm having the same problem and it's totally stressing me out -- 6 bride's maids, 2 i've know for 29 years (seriously) 3 are really close friends from college, and 1 is my fiance's sister. I really don't want to choose, so I'm considering asking his sister or just not having one. I'd love to not choose, but he really wants a best man. Would it be weird to have a best man and no maid of honor?
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I have 7 attendants total, as does my FI. FI wanted both his brother & his best friend to be "Best Men," so I went ahead and chose 2 MOH's - one maid of honor and one matron of honor. It all worked out perfectly, because neither of us felt like we should have to choose 1 single person who was more important than the rest, we both chose the two people closest to us instead.
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This makes me feel so much better! I don't have a sister and wanted a really small bridal party, so chose 3 good friends. I didn't want to have to choose a MOH out of them, so I didn't. Everyone thinks it's funny and that I should choose, but I don't want to!
Yeah, I just informed my fiance about my decision and he was not pleased, but I kind of don't care. I don't want to make a destinction between my friends like that just so we can have a wedding that matches his preconceptions about what a wedding should be!
Do you have one that either has more time available, or lives closer and can then be more helpful?
Not really; plus I really just don't want to say to my friends '' Sorry, Sarah's a better friend than you" or "gee, I really like all of you, but I like Betsy the best." My relationship with each woman is unique.
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I don't have a sister but choosing which friend would be MOH was a no-brainer for me. I don't think there's any problem at all with not choosing one, but usually the BM and MOH are the witnesses that sign the marriage certificate, so you might want to think about who you want to do that. It could be someone that's not even in the bridal party.
I have 5 Maids of Honor! I couldn't choose between my friends, because they are all very important to me in different ways, so I just called them all my Honor Attendants and they seem perfectly happy. We can have them draw straws to sign the marriage license if need be, but I suspect they will work it out peacefully between themselves.
I don't have a sister, either, and all of the friends I would choose to be bridesmaids live in different states than I do, so it's unlikely that any of them will be involved in the planning. I know the MOH is supposed to be the bride's helper with planning, so if mine would not be that, it would only be a title. I'd rather not give one BM that title, because I also feel that it would be like telling the others, "I like her more than you."
No Maid of Honor here, either!! I wouldn't feel comfortable "picking" one friend over the other. & I have 2 sisters, so I couldn't just pick one and not the other. So, I have all bridemaids and that is just fine with me!
No maids of honor here. I mean how do you pick one of your sisters or pick between friends. It just didn't make sense for me. Fiance is having a best man though, and I think that's fine. Each of the maids brings special talents and experiences and I couldn't imagine singling out just one.
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Anyone out there not have a "Maid of Honor"?
I have a wonderful bridal party of 5 close friends ( I don't have s sister) and have yet to choose an official "maid of Honor" I started to think yesterday, do I really to have to name one of them to the maid of honor position? They are all (equally) close friends who will serve as wonderful bridesmaids. So is there really a significant reason to single one out? I would hate for any of them to think that I valued or thought any one of them would serve as a better bridesmaid than another.....
Am I the only who ever questioned this tradition?