Post # 1
I have 3 BM’s but don’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor for a variety of reasons. The main one being that I want to chose K but if I did, C would be really really pissy about it (I was C’s Maid/Matron of Honor 3 years ago). So no Maid/Matron of Honor to avoid the drama.
But I still need one of the BM’s to do the traditional Maid/Matron of Honor things – walking in with the best man, standing next to me and holding my bouquet for the ceremony, a Maid/Matron of Honor speech, and someone to sign the marriage license as a witness.
So here’s what I was thinking:
one girl does the walking in, standing closest to me, holding my bouquet
one girl does the speech
one girl signs as a witness
does that sound fair???????
Post # 3
I think it sounds fine, as long as it doesn’t get too complicated! Honestly for that sort of thing, I think people are being pretty unreasonable if they get mad about not getting one duty/privilege or another… it’s supposed to be an honour to be in the wedding party at all!
Post # 4
I think that sounds fine… or you could just have K walk in and do all of those things, since she is the one you really want. That way she doesn’t have the title so no one can really get too upset about it, at least justifiably upset (not that I think it would be really justifiable, anyway).
Post # 5
@Glasgowbound: I like the idea of splitting the duties. The next thing is one might prefer to do one duty over the other two duties. I don’t have any BM’s or a Maid/Matron of Honor so I am still not sure what I would even do in a situation like this. All I can say is if you really want K do do the job, give her the duty that is most important to you.
Post # 6
Dividing them sounds fine.
Post # 7
I’ve got five and no Maid/Matron of Honor… dealing with similar issues, but my solution has actually been to *remove* tasks. No speech, etc. I’ll probably arrange them by height or figure it out when I see what dresses they picked and arrange them aesthetically by dress length/shade (since I told them to wear anything purple and tea length or shorter).
So whoever just so happens to be standing closest will hold my parasol.
The only semi-loaded task is the document signing, but somehow I feel it won’t really cause a lot of envy, “oh you wrote your name on a thing, so jelly” haha. Not likely with my crowd.