- 9 years ago
Okay, I will spare you from the dramatics and get down to the nitty gritty. Basically my wedding is 46 days away. My former MOH decided she didn’t want to be a part of the ceremony, or attend my wedding at all about a month ago. After getting over the shock- which was challenging because this was someone who I thought was my best friend and who introduced me to my FH, I am now left with a conundrum. If I ask anyone else to be a BM I am afraid they will feel like they are a second choice, like I am only picking them because I am desperate for someone. This is not true, of course, I would happily just have 3BMs total and have one of the groomsmen walk two ladies down the isle ( even though the FH thinks this is a terrible idea). I even considered having my sweetie pie rescue sheltie girl (dog) as a BM ( don’t worry I wouldn’t dress her up or anything, just a color coordinated bow around her neck) but, once again, the FH isn’t that crazy about that idea. The other issue is….how can I possibly ask one of my current BMs to step up as MOH so late in the game. It just seems unfair and tacky and I know they would feel obligated since they all know the situation with my former MOH. She really left me in a tough spot but I am not going to spend any more time dwelling on the past, i just need advice on coming up with a solution! If you were one of my BMs or friends would you feel offended if I asked you soo late to participate- given the situation? I would of course pay for the dress, hair, make up, etc of any addition to the wedding party due to the late notice.