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Hi hive! 
I tried to keep the backstory from being TL;DR, but I also wanted to elaborate in case other bees are/have been in my same shoes. Feel free to skip to the pics if you don't care about my jibber jabber. 
After A LOT of shopping, I finally ordered my wedding gown a couple weeks ago. I knew it was special as soon as I put it on, and I didn't see any flaws or details I wanted to change the way I did with other dresses I liked but didn't love. I felt awesome in it, and it had everything I knew I wanted (lace, ivory in color, not strapless, slightly flared shape at the bottom, vintage inspired, etc.). My mom flipped out over the dress, and said she knew it was the one. I felt great as we were ordering it, and was really excited over the next few days. Then... Doubt started to creep in. "Did I make a rash decision? Should I have slept on it before committing to that dress? Is that dress really the perfect one?"
I started reading about "dress regret" to see if I was crazy, and it seems like it's a pretty common issue for brides... It makes sense because with most other wedding-related decisions, there are only so many options - but with dresses, the choices are endless! There is a lot of pressure to have the "perfect" dress that expresses you as a person and lives up to what you envisioned yourself in.
I think a large part of my doubt is that the night I ordered my dress, I rushed to the bridal shop right after work, so my makeup was gone & my hair was thrown up in a messy bun. I didn't bring heels to wear, so the dress was way too long. We were crammed in a tiny, dimly lit fitting room - so the pictures I had of me in the dress were not flattering. I kept looking at the pics and thinking, "I felt so much better in the dress than I look in these photos."
After struggling with the tugs of doubt for awhile (and spending WAY too much time worrying about it), I asked a good friend who has similar taste in fashion to go back to the shop with me. This time, I put on makeup, did my hair, and brought heels so I could get a better vision of how I'll look on my wedding day in this dress. We went last night, and... My doubts are gone! I was reminded of why I fell in love with it, and I feel SO MUCH better about my decision to purchase this dress. I can't wait until it comes in this summer!
So, without further ado... Here's my dress! 
(P.S. The sample size is two sizes larger than what I ordered, so the top is still a little wonky. Obviously it will fit better when I have the right bra and it is tailored to me. Sorry about my black bra, also. It's the only one I have that is a bit of a push-up. I will probably be wearing chicken cutlet-type things for the wedding, since the back of the dress has a deep-v.)
WOW! I am glad you have no more regret about that dress, it is so classic and beautiful on you! Just amazing!
This truly is a beautiful dress and it looks wonderful on you!!
You look gorgeous! :) BTW, has anyone ever told you you look like Katharine McPhee? :P
@pengoala: No, I have never heard that! Thank you, that's very sweet. 
Thanks, bees! I am really, really excited, and so relieved to not be worrying about it anymore. I feel silly for wasting so much time thinking about it, haha.
You look stunning in that dress! It looks perfect on you, like it was made for you in mind!
Gorgeous!!!! That dress was made for you!
Holy crap that dress is amazing on you! You're going to look absolutely stunning!
Yay, thank you all so much!! You're too kind. I can't wait to wear it!
That dress is quite possibly the most beautiful dress I have ever seen. I am slightly jealous!!! You look beautiful.
Firstly, I just want to say how BEAUTIFUL that dress is. I'm glad you have no more worries, because this dress is stunning and you look fabulous in it.
Second, I read the whole story and that is exactly where I am!!! I had the same type of experience with my dress when I tried it on. I ordered it but it hasn't come in yet.... any day now. But I've been going through a array of emotions and dress doubt. Some days I'm ok, some days I think it's not the right dress. Hopefull when I try it back on I'll get the same confirmation!! **crossing my fingers**
You look gorgeous and the dress is SO lovely! Glad you and your dress have gotten to a good place together! :)
@Missido: I hope you get the confirmation you're looking for, too! Honestly, just try to remember that you fell in love with your gown for a reason, and you loved it enough to order it. One thing I was struggling with is that there is probably not just ONE "perfect" dress out there, you know? I likely could have kept shopping and perhaps found another one that I loved just as much as this one, because there are A LOT of gorgeous dresses out there. I'm sure you could have, too. But you fell in love with the one you ordered, and I'm sure it is absolutely perfect for you! Once you have YOUR dress on, in your size, and pair it with all the accessories you want, with the right makeup, hair, etc. - I bet you will be relieved and know FOR SURE that you made the right decision. i think sometimes it's hard to tell until you have the "whole picture" of what you'll look like as a bride.
Definitely let us know what you think once it comes in. You'll be beautiful!
@RahlyRah: Wow, thank you so much! That made me blush!
@maudemaisha: @All In: @Dandelion D: @madger: You are all so sweet! Thank you!!
This thread is making me even more excited.
@lindsey_k_16: Thank you!!!
I meant to include a close-up of the lace. I just realized I forgot that pic! That was one thing I was unsure of, too; I worried that the large flowers on the lace were perhaps too summery for my November wedding, and I wanted to be sure it didn't look like a doily... (Overthinking it much? 
) But I love the uniqueness of it!
Also, the belt doesn't come with the dress (it's only $400, haha... 
) - but I plan on getting a very similar one from Etsy!
What type of veil do you ladies think would go with this dress? I love birdcage veils, but am open to other styles, as well!
Were you at the wedding shoppe?!
I LOVE THIS DRESS! great choice!
Thats a beautiful dress. I too had regrets about my dress once I walked out of the bridal shop. I chose the dress out of pressure. I then went back with just ONE friend (with similar taste), I had my mind all cleared up, went late at night so the place wouldn't be so crowded, fixed my hair, and i ended up falling in love with the dress all over again =) Glad the same thing happened to you =)
Love your dress - the lace, the style, the straps -- and so glad you shared the close-up picture - the lace detail is gorgeous.
The dress I'm considering has a low, v-back too, so I'll have to investigate "chicken cutlets"! :) I have heard of them but haven't looked into them yet!
@LaughLines: I haven't looked into them, either! It's just the only thing I can think of that won't show in the front or back... I'm not even sure how they work! I think they just stick onto the boobs?!
@mcj040916: Yay, so happy you had a great experience when you re-tried on your dress! It's the best feeling to have all doubts fade away.
@vreelans: Haha, yes! I was wondering if anyone local would look at this post and notice the background. And thank you!
@Ms Bookworm: I used to work there! Haha. Yay for local brides! Id love to hear about your vendors and planning!
@Ms Bookworm: I think you're right - stick 'em right on them! Which makes me not want to think about taking them off! :) I also am going to investigate having cups sewn into my dress. I did try a "backless" bra but it basically works by diverting the back straps lower by connecting them to an elastic piece that wraps around your stomach... not sure about that!
@Ms Bookworm: Awwww, thank you for your support (and for sharing your story and gorgeous pictures)! This really helps a lot. And I know you're right, it,s just a matter of seeing the "whole look". And I agree, there is not just one perfect dress. I can't wait to see my dress again and hopefully feel that love feeling again! lol
Seriously one of the prettiest dresses/brides I've ever seen! That sash is amazing, and you're stunning.
I so love your dress, almos induced dress regret in me. It's funny that you asked about a veil reccomendationa as I though you had a veil on in the photo when you have your hands in your hair. The dress on the maniquin is tulle and it looked like and fingertip length double layer veil to me. I think you should do something like that, or maybe a chappel length, that will play up the vintage quality of the dress.
Do you mind telling us who the designer is?
@ivythorn: That is so funny that you say that because I thought the same thing when I saw that pic!! I did a double take and thought, "I don't remember trying on any veils..." It's actually a plastic garment bag hanging up behind me. Haha! I really like the look of that "veil," though, so I'll have to play around with some different styles. I never thought I'd be interested in anything but birdcage, but we'll see! (And my dress is by Allure, style 8903!)
Thank you SO MUCH for the compliments, ladies! You sure know how to make a girl feel good. Like I said above, this is making me even more excited and confident about my choice, especially because when I showed the original pics to my MOH, she didn't have a great reaction. She is super sweet and tried to be positive, but I could just tell she didn't love it... Even when I emailed the new pics to her last night, her first comment was, "Ok, I can see more now why you love it..." And then, "I love the red lipstick!" That's it. I meeean, thank you - but c'mon! What about the dress?! I guess we just have different tastes, and that's okay. But of course hearing compliments always gives me that little extra boost of confidence about my choice.
So, honestly, I really can't thank you enough for the incredibly sweet comments! I feel SO RELIEVED and SO EXCITED about the gown.
@Ms Bookworm: I can definitely understand about the MOH not being completely on board when you show her your dress... My MOH said, "Oh, I imagined you in something more ballgown-like". My mouth nearly dropped... When has she ever thought I'd wear a ballgown for an outdoor wedding in the middle of September?!?
I had severe dress remorse - so much so, I went back to another store to try on a dress that was the initial dress I was going to purchace. But, when I put that original dress on in the store, there was something missing. It just wasn't what I remembered. So, I immediately went home, put my dress on, walked out and looked at myself in the mirror... I was one happy girl from that moment on.
Congrats and enjoy finding your headpiece - It can be just as much fun (or nerve-wracking)
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