Post # 1
I figured I should let you lovely ladies know that my SO of 2 1/2 years have decided to go our separate ways. About a month ago I came to my senses and realized the future I had with SO would not be a good one, we just have different ideas of what we want out of life. Since, he has been expelled from his tech school program and fired from his job, these events further solidify my decision. Although we just broke up, I had been feeling distant from him for probably the past 6 months. I’m ready to get back out into the dating world and see what I’ve been missing. Any tips for a college-aged lady?
Post # 2
Sorry about the end of your relationship. I would spend some time enjoying the single life. There are SO many things in life to explore, especially when you’re in college! Being in a relationship is nice, but it’s important to know and to take care of yourself. Savor the moment!
Post # 3
truetexanbee: I’m sorry about the end of your relationship but it sounds as though you made the right decision and are happy with your choice.
You’re in college so it sounds like you’ll have lots of avenues to go to parties, meet new people, try new things, take up some hobbies etc. Just enjoy life and take it easy!
Post # 4
I agree, take some time to do things you like and want. Don’t jump into a relationship right away. You’re a much more intersting person when you have your own life instead of your life just being a series a guys you’ve been with.
Learn to bake! Volunteer! Take a roadtrip by yourself!
Post # 5
Yes: date yourself.
Keep yourelf busy killing at your degree!
Post # 6
Good on you for recognizing what had to be done and doing it!
Be very good t yourself during this time
Post # 7
Enjoy being single. Do not rush to be in another relationship. Get comfortable with yourself.
Post # 8
my advice would be to be picky and have high standards! don’t accept dates just because they ask or you’re feeling lonely, wait for a quality guy who you have really great chemistry with
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
Agree with PP regarding being single for a while; enjoy your time on your own and pamper yourself. In due time love will find you.
Post # 10
Focus on your studies and enjoy being single.
Be clear about what your dealbreakers and must haves are when it comes to choosing a partner.
I met my husband when I wasn’t even looking for a boyfriend. I thought it would just be one date since it was completely blind.
Post # 11
Thank you for your great responses ladies! I have noticed that I don’t even know who I am anymore, this is something I need to work on. I didn’t realize how much of my identity faded away while in my past relationship. I am so thankful to have my girlfriends around me to keep me busy, it is such a relief to be single again.
Post # 12
It sounds like you made the right decision, but the end of a relationship is never easy. Definitely take some time for yourself And take the time you need to heal.
Post # 13
An update: he has gotten his rebound pregnant. He started “dating” her a few days after we broke up because he needed a place to live. He then calls me to complain about it. I’m blocking all his calls from now on. I hope he has a good life.
Post # 14
Ok, so clearly you dodged a bullet there! I feel as though situations like this happen in life to reafirm that your gut instincts are right and to remind you not to second guess yourself.
Post # 15
Good for you for blocking him. I hope you realize that you dodged a bullet, he seems extremely needy.