No music/dancing at reception??

posted 3 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think I have an idea?  I was to a wedding that had a live string quartet play the entire night.  They were from a local school, so I don’t think it was pricey.  It was nice, people still danced if they wanted, it was good background, etc.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

A lot of people like dancing at weddings so some people will be disappointed. Even at weddings with dancing, not everyone dances.  Many will and some will just chat.

If it’s a short reception (couple of hours) then you don’t need dancing and people will be okay.  If you’re having a 5 hour reception without dancing it will be BORING to most people.  Because what are people supposed to do that whole time?

So if it’s a short reception I think you will be okay but if it’s longer without a DJ or dancing…many people might be bored to tears.  I would probably find it strange and leave early due to boredom.  Keep in mind the reception is for your guests…to thank them from coming.  So you sould keep in mind.

So if you don’t want dancing I would just recommend an afternoon or noontime reception and make sure it’s no longer than 3 hours.  That would be perfectly fine.  Definitely do not do a nighttime reception without dancing!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

@penguinmoose:  I would have music, even if it’s a lone guitar player, but you don’t have to do dancing.  It’s your wedding and it is not your job to give everyone a dance party if you don’t enjoy that. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@penguinmoose:  We had a luncheon with no dancing, and people LOVED it! They still had that night to do whatever.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I prefer a dance party at weddings, but that’s because I like a good dance party and weddings are a good excuse. However, I don’t begrudge folks who have a different vision for their wedding day.

I was a BM in a wedding that had an afternoon reception with refreshments and light food. It ended by 4 PM and the guests went their separate ways (I, for example, went to the bar with some other guests). It was a lovely event, and I enjoyed the whole experience. It felt elegant and was very calm and pleasant. Is it what I would choose for my wedding? No. Was it precisely what the couple wanted? Absolutely. Do what feels good for you and your FI. Don’t let anyone pressure you into something you don’t want.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

My wedding reception was an afternoon lunch reception. We did not have a dance, we had a playlist of some of our favorite songs playing softly over the sound system. Our reception was quite short, people took off right after the cake was cut, so it was nice. Everyone had the great.of the day to themselves. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I was so worried about people not enjoying themselves at our wedding that we’re opting for a disco. I’m just so paranoid about guests not enjoying our wedding. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@penguinmoose:  We’re not having any dancing. People are free to do so if they so choose, but FH and I won’t be participating. I do think that you should have something playing softly in the background. FH and I are having a pretty short reception, so we’ve been downloading some  nice instrumental songs to play at the reception. I just don’t want any awkward silences. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We are playing three songs for the wedding ceremony and that is it. There will be no music or DJ at our simple little reception. We really have no regrets about doing it this way at all.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re having a keyboard player instead of a band/DJ. We’re playing music from our ipods for our first dance, the father/daughter dance, and mother/son dance, but other than that, it’s just a keyboard player for some light music 🙂 If it helps, our reception is also a cocktail reception.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@penguinmoose:  I think a lunch with no dancing is fine. I’m confused, though, about the “and a later tea” idea though. What would you be doing between lunch and tea? People are not going to want to just sit around talking that whole time. If you’re having it outdoors and had lawn games or something, that might work. But I don’t think a lunch in a reception hall followed by…. sitting?….. then later a tea would work. I imagine I would leave after lunch if nothing else seemed to be happening immediately. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@penguinmoose:  Here in Australia, no-dancing weddings are fairly common. It’s like a big dinner or banquet rather than a dance party. There are a few short speeches (usually 3 like in the UK tradition: father of bride, groom, best man, though at mine I said a few thank-yous too) and otherwise people move around and talk and socialise.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Are oyu having the wedding outdoors? If you do the lunchtime reception maybe you could have lawn games available for people to play? Like croquet, badminton, things like thaty?

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