No name change – Mrs vs Ms?

posted 2 years ago in Names
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Helper bee

I would think yes. You’d still be a Mrs if you don’t change your name. The name change doesn’t determine that.

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Blushing bee

We know a couple who is Mr. Lastname and Mrs. Maiden name, so yes, you can be a Mrs. and keep your maiden name.

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Bee Keeper

Technically no.  If you keep your maiden name you are Ms. Maidenname.  To say that you are Mrs. Maidenname says that you are your father’s wife seeing as Mrs. technically means wife of the Mr. who has that last name.

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Honey Beekeeper

@Meowkers: I agree.

While some people may refer to themselves as Mrs. Maiden Name, it is not technically correct.  If you don’t change your name, you’d be Ms. Maiden Name.

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Blushing bee

I guess that would be true. I’ll have to pass on this info to our friends who are using it incorrectly!

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Bumble bee

No you don’t become a mrs. you become ms. 

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Helper bee

Hehe I just came onto the name boards to post this exact same question! Great minds think alike :)

I just read somewhere that if you keep your surname then you become Ms. But I think it would be up to the woman to decide.

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Sugar Beekeeper

I personally am not changing my name to my FI’s last name but I will be calling myself “Mrs.” I will most likely be dropping my last name all together and going by my 1st and middle name after the wedding/ or maybe using my FI’s middle name as my last name… not sure yet.

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Helper bee

@FutureKMM and Meowkers: This information is inaccurate. You are confused about the  meaning of “Mrs”. It is still “correct” to use Mrs Maidenname, and does not technically mean the woman is married to her father! It only means she is married.

The title Mrs comes from Mistress (female version of Master), and it is an honorary title usually used for women who do not warrent other titles (e.g., Dr or Lady).

Although the common custom is to adopt the husband’s surname after marriage, this custom is independent of the title Mrs. In fact, until the late 20th century, Mrs was often used simply to denote a position of authority — regardless of marital status.

Today, Mrs is exclusively the title used in English to distinguish married women from unmarried. What surname you choose to pair with the title is irrelevant.

So, it is correct to call yourself Mrs Maidenname if you are not adopting your husband’s last name.

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Helper bee

You can be either one you like, entirely up to you! But personally I will never be ‘Mrs’ anything

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Helper bee

@Jade33:  Thank you. I was wondering where they got that from. Mrs is the title to denote a married woman. It doesn’t have anything to do with your husband’s name. People just assume and then spread their assumptions like their facts. Geez.

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