Post # 1
My fi is very very affectionate and i love it, as im a real cuddler too. the one thing that drives me a little bit mad though is him trying to cuddle me while im cooking or washing up.
its not just that im trying to get the meal done, its that he walks like a *ninja* and i dont realise hes there until he puts his arms aruond me. and its not fun to be startled while dealing with boiling hot oil or trying to clean a razor sharp meat knife – i just seem to be a naturally jumpy person, and if he grabs me when i think hes upstairs or the other side of the room – i literally jump about a foot in to the air
ive tried to tell him to make more noise when he approaches me but he completely forgets, or assumes i somehow know hes coming up behind me haha. last time i splashed myself with oil and then snapped and felt like an awful person when his face fell.
currently the only solution i can think of is tying bells to his shoes….
Post # 3
I’m like that with my hair dryer. If I’m drying my hair, and anyone comes up behind me, I freak out! I don’t know if it’s the fact that it’s so loud and high pitch, but the same thing happens with the vacuum cleaner too!
Post # 4
Your title made me laugh, and I knew without even reading the post what you meant. I have the same problem.
Post # 5
Ugghhhh he does this ALL the time! He will hug and then try to go for my belly button.
For some reason, on a daily basis, my husband tries to stick his finger in my belly button, the feeling is SO icky it makes me want to throw up and he thinks its so funny. So he will come up to me, while I’m cooking and try to push my belly button! Annoying!
Post # 6
That would annoy me too! The worst is when he stops me to hug me while I’m trying to get somewhere/do something. Like I have a million things to do, and I don’t have time to stop and hug. Normally I’m all for the hugging, just not when I’m on a mission! Or when I’m really hot. That’s a no go too.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood
Yep, my boyfriend does this. I love hugs and cuddles but not when I’m in the bathroom brushing my teeth/doing my makeup/washing my face or cooking.
It makes me irrationally angry, haha.
Post # 8
I call it “spike stripping” when DH does this — because I am trying to accomplish a task, and he is basically throwing a spike strip down across the road and blowing out all my tires! It helps to have an official name for the behavior, though, so I can yell “Baby! Stop spike stripping! Let me finish doing this first!”
He also smacks my ass whenever I bend over, and when I’m bent over digging for tupperware or trying to get a pair of socks out of my drawer, I fly into a rage when he smacks me. He’s slowly learning not to do it anymore, haha.
Post # 9
FI does this once in awhile. I’ll try to push him away or ask him to stop. I tell him that he’s prolonging my task! Haha.
Post # 10
Husband does the same thing, in all fairness though… I do the same thing to him.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
That’s hilarious and I totally feel you. I love the bells idea 🙂
Post # 12
i must admit im a habitual ass smacker i also tend to poke him in the nipples because i know he doesnt like it…in all fairness he likes to push my buttons too (no pun intended lol) so i feel it evens out.
He is the cuddler in the relationship, i hate hurting his feelings and i know i should be happy he wants to snuggle me up all the time, but it really annoys me that he comes up behind me all the time: when i’m brusing my teeth, or changing, or folding, or washing dishes…its like cmon let me finish what im doing, if it wasnt all the time i wouldnt mind but its alllll the time. i had to draw the line when he would try to do it when i’m, ahem, using the bathroom.
phew, glad im not the only one, i felt so guilty!
Post # 13
DH does it all the time. It doesn’t scare me, but at times when I was trying to finish a task it would annoy me. So I started doing it to him hoping it would pester him. Instead he got happy, no matter what I interrupted. So MY plan to annoy him back failed. I think his ninja cuddling was a not so subtle way to tell me he’d wish I would do the same to him. Point taken, hon.
Post # 14
@iarebridezilla: Oh that’s totally me with the ass smacking. Sometimes the hubs will use his hands to cover up his bootie when he’s walking by me, like a kid afraid of getting a spanking. I can’t help it, he has a ghetto booty.
Post # 15
Ugghhhh yes! Why is it that the very moment I am busy and trying to concentrate is the exact time that he would like to snuggle and/or get a little down and dirty???
Post # 16
- Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves
@newname_99: Bahahaha bells to his shoes, poor guy.
Mr T likes to hug me while I’m cooking and it really bothers me, I’m trying to move here!