No, No, No wedding!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Wedding or Elope?
    wedding : (8 votes)
    31 %
    Elope : (18 votes)
    69 %
  • Post # 3
    4043 posts
    Honey bee

    @tdmklm1217:  Hmm…tough decision. How much will you lose by calling it off? (more than 1/2 the cost of the wedding). Can you cut down your guest list so the financial impact is lower (since you haven’t sent out invites yet)? 

    We thought about eloping briefly, but decided we really wanted to celebrate our day with friends and family becuase that is what is most important to us. In the end, the photos, the memories and the feelings were worth the money spent. We are waiting three weeks to go on our honeymoon (because of timing/jobs) and while it was a little bummer, it’s not too bad. 

    Could you take a short mini-moon after the wedding (2-3 days in a nearby town)? Then do a bigger honeymoon later? 

    Remember, you really only get one wedding day (though you could do a vowel renewal), so decide what you really want out of it. Some people just want to be married, others want the whole shebang. 

    Regardless, make the decision that will make BOTH of you happy. 

    Post # 4
    1007 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I was with you until you said you wanted a newer house because your current house is 8 years old.  What??  Houses aren’t like cars/computers/phones- most people live in houses waay older than 8 years.  My current residence is 55 years old, my last residence was 93 years old.  Even my parents house, which they built, is 23 years old by now.  

    But aside from that, I think that a honeymoon and downpayment is a better use of money than a wedding you aren’t 100% about.  How much money are you going to lose though?  Will you be able to get any refunds? 

    Post # 5
    2884 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    normally by this point youd be locked into a ccontract so cancelling wouldnt give you much if any money back

    what do your contracts say?

    Post # 6
    397 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013


    @bmo88:  +1

    I had questions about the wedding being worth it, even though I have always wanted a big celebration with friends and family. After all was said and done, I think it was well worth it. Everyone is STILL talking about our day and the photos have been flooding in and it’s amazing. I wouldn’t have traded it for anything in the world. It is an amazing feeling having everyone you love and that love you being in the same room. We went on a mini-moon for 4 days to my dads cottage. It was nice going off the grid for a bit and relax after all the craziness. We aren’t doing a honeymoon until December and we’re both perfectly okay with that. Helps you relive the specialness of the day 😉

    Just make sure you two are happy with whatever you choose to do. Good luck! xo

    Post # 7
    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Do you have people traveling from other states for the wedding? Have they bought plane tickets? You don’t want people to resent you for wasting their money.

    Post # 10
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Are there other ways you could use the deposits you’ve paid that are non refundable? Your DJ and photographer likely have smaller non-wedding oriented packages that you could discuss down grading to. A post elopement portrait session perhaps? A cute at home cocktail party  to celebrate when you return from Key West, that maybe you have DJed for a few hours? You could even ask your florist if she could make you a fantastic bouquet with the deposit money and ship it to key west for you! If you’re serious about canceling, it can’t hurt to talk to your vedors about your options.  

    Post # 11
    1595 posts
    Bumble bee

    If the photographer is already paid for why not elope close to home and have them photograph it for you. Then you could be off to a honeymoon. 

    Post # 12
    171 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would elope and use he dj and photographer for a small low key celebration when you get home

    Post # 13
    240 posts
    Helper bee

    It sounds like, in your heart, you don’t want this wedding and would rather elope. So I voted for eloping!

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