(Closed) No one cares about anything unless I'm pregnant :(

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

you should.

“DH and I tried this new sex position the other day, and BOY ..”

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I F*** with people by not drinking at family dinner and events. I’m a terrible (hilarious) person. 

Me getting pregnant is all my husband’s family wants to talk about and it bothers me. I recently started a big new job and i find that much more exciting than family planning. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Are you trying to get pregnant, or did you express that you want to get pregnant soon? Before my sister got pregnant, I always assumed she was calling to tell me she was pregnant…oops! I knew she was trying, though, does that make it less annoying?

Anyway, how can you be sure that they felt “that’s all” or that they expect you to be announcing a pregnancy?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Mollytov:  You would get my mom so bad. She gossips every time a childbearing-age female fails to drink heavily at a family thing. I’m always like “maybe she’s on antibiotics? Maybe she wasn’t feeling like it? Maybe she has to drive?”

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

 I’ve been married for all of three months and people blatantly ask “Do you have an announcement” and they chuckle.  I want to smack them… Even my own Gram.  Ok well I couldn’t really smack my Gram but still.  SHUT THE F*CK UP PEOPLE.  And mind your own damn business.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I understand how you feel! It does get annoying but what can you do?

When I was single, it was “when are you going to get married” blah blah. My cousin wisely told me that his parents still say things to him (he’s 45, lol) and you just have to let it roll of your shoulders.

Edit: my cousin is 45, married, with 3 teenagers and his parents still say things to him like “when are you going to have more kids.” LOL

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s annoying, but it happens regardless of tact.  I’ve been getting the “are you planning on kids” comment from everyone, despite the fact that my DH has had a vasectomy for 10+ years, we live in different states, and I’ve been rather outspoken about the fact that I don’t want more kids (I have one son and DH has a daughter).  Some people… I agree, I’d mess with them.  Skip the beverages during the first part of the dinner and make a big deal about wanting seltzer water and then start doing shots at the end of the evening. Make them really wonder 🙂

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Mollytov:  I do this too!  Except my strategy is to decline drinks all through dinner or family gathering to get people suspecious and then at the end of the meal start downing the alcohol.  hahaha  i love to see the expressions on their face.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know what you mean.  People were on our cases about having kids at the reception!  Thankfully my step mom has laid off it because we are not in any way ready for kids.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh yeah.  I go through this every time I go to work.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My mom is a huge dog-lover (and is only mildly annoying about wanting me to be pregnant RIGHT NOW), but she was so sad when I told her I was getting an adorable new puppy!  She told me I’m not allowed to start any sentences to her with “So I kinda have some news…”  But it’s not like I did a dramatic pause, I just didn’t know how to segue into telling her we were getting a little puppy.  Why can’t I tell her that?

Apparently, my MIL was trying to gossip to my mom about why we don’t have kids yet (I know at 25 years old my biological clock is just out of control but somehow I’m managing to wait to have kids and work on my career) and was like “So, they’re having problems with their marriage huh?  Is that why?  What’s going on with their marriage??”  Ummm the absence of a pregnancy after a year of marriage does not mean we are about to get a divorce, wtf.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yup. People were constantly thinking that I was going to announce that I was pregnant if I said anything at all. It was super annoying. Now I actually AM pregnant, but I kind of don’t want to tell anyone for as long as possible. I don’t know, it’s just not cool to bring this up with people. You never know if people are trying unsuccessfully or whatever else could be going on…

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

There were times I felt like that, too, and it was so frustrating.  Like there’s nothing else for a married 20-something woman to be doing but making babies.  Maybe her “news” is that she got a great promotion at work or got into medical school.  It’s 2012.

I love all you bees who mess with people by refusing alcohol and then downing shots later on.  I’m pregnant now, but wish I had thought of that before!

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