Post # 1
Both my parents have passed away, one to cancer, the othet to suicide and now i don’t know what to do about my father meant to be walking me down the aisle and the dance with him amd then my mum. What to do?
Post # 3
Aww sweetie. You can have whoever you want walk you down the aisle, it doesn’t need to be a man. do you have any siblings or god parents? Or even just a best friend!
Post # 4
aww I’m so sorry 🙁
do you have a brother or a father figure in your life? Maybe a close uncle or family friend? My cousins dad passed away a few months before her wedding, so her brother and mom walked her down the aisle and then she danced with her uncles and other family members she was close with.
Post # 5
I’d say find someone other than dear FI that you cherish dearly to walk you down the aisle and do your first dance with. It doesn’t have to be a parent, just someone who means a lot to you. If I didn’t have my parents, then I’d probably choose my godmother.
Post # 6
So sorry to hear all of this!
As the other bee’s suggested, you can have ANY important person walk you down the aisle or have your first dance with. Or if you want to forget tradition, you can walk in by yourself, and skip the first dance (if it’s going to be too difficult for you)
Post # 7
Whatever will be most meaningful to you. If it feels right to you to walk down the aisle alone, then go for it. If not, consider a surviving relative (uncle or aunt, godparent, brother or sister) or a close friend or mentor.
Similarly, you could omit the dance with a parent-figure if you think missing your parents will be too hard, or you could choose someone who you would like to honor with that dance.
Many hugs to you — I’m sure that this is a joyous time for you, but also difficult in some wsys, too.
Post # 8
I am sorry to hear your heartbreaking story! That is a huge loss to have lived with for your whole life! My heart sincerely goes out to you doll!
I agree with all of the other bees though, I don’t have a genetic dad walking beside me but my stepdad is perfect for the job. I have also see poeple use their brothers or best friends as well – and as they mentioned above – it doesn’t need to be a guy either.
You can also put a special memorial in the wedding program for your parents and/or have a special reading or piece of the ceremony dedicated to their memory. It’s good to honor them and your friends and family will be touched to see you doing so.
Post # 9
I am so sorry to hear about both your parents passing. I hope you do get some grief counseling, that is a lot to handle. My coworker lost both his parents 20 years ago and he’s still not quite over it.
My H and I walked into our ceremony together – arm in arm. It’s a Swedish custom and it was a way to honor his heritage. The Swedes believe both are equals and no one needs to give away anyone else. I really liked how we did it.
Post # 10
im sorry to hear about your parents 🙁
do you have a grandfather or uncle that could walk you down the aisle? or even a close male friend? even a female family member i think would be fine, if thats what you want.
i never met my real dad and the man who i thought was my dad found out when i was 9 that i wasnt so he left the picture and his parents stepped in to help raise me. so even though they arent my biological grandparents, i see them that way cause they were there for me… i used to be sad about not having a dad to walk me down the aisle, but i decided no one has been my father figure more than him, so he will be walking me.
Post # 11
How about your fiancees dad?
Post # 12
I don’t have my mother or father either. My best friend is walking me down the aisle and my first dance will be with a childhood friend that I have stayed close with over the years. It’s your day, surround yourself with the people that mean the most to you and make you happy. I chose those two people because they were there the ones that were there the most when I was going through those dofficcult times of losing my parents.
Post # 13
@xoxClairexox: I don’t plan on having anyone walk me down the aisle because I don’t feel I ‘belong’ to my father, or anyone for that matter. I am ‘giving’ myself to my future husband. And I’ve not been to any weddings where there has even been a father-daughter dance, or any other people-specific dance apart from the bride and groom. Don’t feel that you HAVE to substitute either. They will be there in spirit and everyone there will know it
One option-I don’t know traditional you want your wedding and I don’t know how many are in your bridal party but if you’re looking for some support for the walk down the aisle then maybe you could use your MOH if you are close to her?
Post # 14
@sienna76: Love the idea of walking in together!!!
Post # 15
I don’t have a father, so my fiance and I are walking down the aisle together. I like this especially because I don’t need to be “given away”. My fiance and I are freely coming together as equals so there is no need to put me, the bride, on a pedestal.