Post # 1
My SO has a stepbrother whom he’s pretty close to and whom I’ve known for 10 years. The stepbrother left for Army basic training in March and graduated early for some reason, last month. I knew he and his girlfriend had been together for over 3 years, but I didn’t expect them to get married soon (if at all) because at the time he left for basic, they had broken up for a few months.
This morning he posted on Facebook that he missed his wife, so I looked at his profile and saw that she’d gone to Georgia last month for his graduation and they’d gotten married that same day. I’m not judging their relationship or anything, I’m just surprised that I didn’t know about it until now. I don’t know yet whether my SO doesn’t know about it (I don’t think his stepbrother has talked to him since he graduated) or he knows and hasn’t told me…either way it seems weird.
Post # 3
With military those things happen quickly because of the benifits and pay inceases that come with being married. It makes sense to get married if someone’s in the militaty. Maybe it wasnt a big thing for them and they will trow a big shindig later on
Post # 4
Assuming that you and your FI both have open lines of communication I’m assuming that he doesn’t know either. I’d wait till you guys have time to talk and bring it up. It isn’t uncommon with army/navy. My FI is in the Navy and many of his friends have gotten married quickly or in a spur of the moment because of benefits.
I feel for your FI if he doesn’t know. It’s tough when someone who you feel close to does something so big and never tells you. Any chance the brother uses the term ‘wife’ although the person is actually a girlfriend?
Post # 5
As soon as you stated he was in the military it made sense. It happens quick in the military. No big deal. (:
Post # 6
@lovesweetlove: I wasn’t really surprised that they got married quickly–I know several people in the military, including my sister’s husband and my ex-boyfriend–mostly just that neither my SO nor I knew about it. I asked my SO about it today and apparently he didn’t know until I told him.
I thought maybe the stepbrother was just using the term “wife” for someone who was really his girlfriend, but I looked at his recent pics and there was a picture of her in her wedding dress and a picture of their marriage license.
Anyway, maybe they will have another ceremony and a reception later on and invite people. I hadn’t really thought about that.