No Paternity Leave [RANT]

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
1609 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow, that sucks! At my husband’s old job, they didn’t have any paternity leave. So when I called my DH on a Friday to tell him I had to have a c-section that afternoon, his boss (a total dickwad) harassed him because DH wanted to be there when our DD was born! DH ended up leaving that day anyway. His boss also got pissed when DH took 2 vacation days to stay at the hospital with us and to be there when DD came home. Dickwad also chewed out DH because when dickwad had kids, he didn’t leave work to go to the hospital. Luckily DH doesn’t work there anymore. 

Post # 3
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014


jouissance:  My company only offers 4 WEEKS, thats right ONLY 4!!!!! 🙁  FI’s company does NOT offer paternity leave either. Luckily he has a ton of pto and vacation and we both work for very flexible companies

Post # 7
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014


jouissance:  I know, not how we planned it but it’s happening! Ill be 20ish weeks at the wedding. At first I had a hard time accepting i’ll be a pregnant bride. And thank you!! Sorry.. not trying to steal your thread or get off topic!! lol

Post # 8
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Another reminder of how lucky I am to live in Canada (taxes and all).

I am so sorry. I seriously would reconsider having kids at all if that is the kind of crap I had to face. It`s like they want you to fail at life, or make it as hard as freaking possible. How is it even allowed for companies to give so little (or NO) time for leave after having a baby?

Post # 9
992 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

My husband owns his own business, and if he isn’t there, nobody is making sales and the company isn’t making any money.

He was on his laptop and phone the entire time I was in labor and in the hospital. The day I came home, he dropped me and the baby off at the house and went straight to work. 

It really wasn’t that big of a deal (especilly because I had an easy labor, a c-section might have been different). Sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do.

I just kept reminding myself that at least I had a husband who would be home in the evenings. A lot of new mom’s don’t even have that support!

Post # 11
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I live in Canada, so I’ll get a year, but DH is also a sole proprietor, so if he doesn’t work, no money comes in, meaning no paternity leave. It sucks, but it is what it is….

Post # 12
6675 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

My company had zero paid leave whrn I was pregnant- I just saved my sick time and vacation and saved for unpaid time off. DH got 1 week paid paternity leave.

Post # 13
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You’re so lucky that your company offers that.  I only get FMLA, which is 12 weeks unpaid.  Nothing else. 

Post # 14
11634 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Most companies don’t offer paid paternity leave – I think yours is the outlier here. 

The short term disability is more standard for maternity leave than a separate “maternity leave” category, but that $70 figure seems absurd.  My company pays about two-thirds of your pretax salary for 8-12 weeks (vaginal vs. c-section birth).

Post # 15
3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wow… I just can’t wrap my head around a company that ignorant of the well being of their employees. I’m from Sweden, where paternity leave is legislated, so I thought it was bad enough that my husbands’ job doesn’t allow paternity leave. But they would certainly not object if someone left early because their partner went into labour! As it’s now, my husband is saving up all his vacation for the November/December arrival of our little one. I think it’s a completely archaic system as it is… but sometimes you’ll just have to do the best of the situation and adapt to your surroundings. But man I wish we lived in Sweden, not Canada, some days!

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