Post # 1
Anyone besides me having an unplugged wedding? I ran across this blog about “Unplugged Weddings” and fell in LOVE! As an event planner so many times guests are not really enjoying the wedding because they are too busy snapping away.
So I knew for my destination wedding in Jamaica I was having it unplugged. No cameras, no phones- just enjoy my wedding! Here is the article with some helpful ways to word it:
Here is a picture of our program and welcome packet. We added a small paragraph reminding guests of our request, the paragraph with the Shutterfly info is on the Saturday insert on our Welcome Packet.
Here is the wording for our Saturday (wedding day) insert:
We kindly and respectfully ask that no pictures of the wedding day be posted to any social networking sites (Facebook, Twitter etc.) Two AMAZING photographers will be covering the festivities the entire weekend and you will have plenty of pictures at your disposal. Please leave your camera and phones in your room and enjoy our special day. We would like to be the first to reveal our day to our friends and family who could not make it to Jamaica. If you have other pictures from the excursion, rehearsal dinner or anything else from the weekend please upload them to Shutterfly with the username ______ and password_______.
Post # 3
So you don’t want people to bring their phones or cameras to the ceremony or reception? Honestly, I’d be a little peeved if I went all the way to Jamaica and I was asked to leave my cameras behind – the photographers won’t be getting any of the pictures I necessarily want since they’ll be focused on photos that YOU want. If I’m going to Jamaica with my Hubby, I’ll be taking pictures of us!
Post # 4
I’m having an unplugged wedding ceremony, and I think it’s a great idea. So many people are always so absorbed in “catching the moment” that they become disconnected from the moment completely! I want my guests to be completely present during our ceremony.
Because I am asking guests to put down their cameras during the ceremony (I’ve put a note about it on my website, in our program and our pastor is also going to mention it), I am going to be posting all the photos from the ceremony for download on our wedding website and/or sending burned CDs of all the images for those who can’t/won’t download them.
I am having a “plugged in” reception though.
Post # 5
I voted I would still take pictures. I would respect your wishes at the ceremony but asking me not to take pictures for the entire evening (weekend?) would annoy me. Your photographer is being paid to photograph you and your family primarily. I want pictures of my friends/DH as well.
Post # 5
I don’t honestly think you can control if someone brings a camera or not, unless you are having security frisk every single guest. I agree with the PP I would be be peeved if asked to do this.
Besides I know for ours a lot of fun shots and cute shots were actually from our guests!
Post # 6
@Navy_Wife: exactly. I think an unplugged ceremony is one thing because you want people to be focused on the act of your marriage instead of getting the best shot. But I think saying leave them in the room for the whole wedding is a little ridiculous. Your wedding is also a fun event in my life so therefore I want to have pictures of it from my perspective! I said I would be peeved and I would take pictures anyways, not during the ceremony but definitely before or after!
Post # 7
Are you just not allowing pictures or you and your groom or are you not allowing pictures at all???
Because I would definitely want to get pictures of myself, my hubby and my friends I am having fun with at your wedding that your photographer is likely not to get. I also enjoy getting pictures of the bride and groom myself but I would respect the request not to put them on social networking sites. I also enjoy getting my picture with the bride and groom at the reception will you not allow that either?
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
As a guest, I would totally respect the bride and groom’s wishing on this. But I would never want this for my own wedding.
I don’t think that taking pictures necessarily prevents guests from “missing the moment.” And a lot of the time, we’re getting pictures the photographers aren’t. The last wedding I went to, my Fiance and I spent a lot of time catching up with old friends we hadn’t seen in a really long time. And yes, we took lots of pictures of us together at our tables, dancing on the floor, and just hanging out. I really cherish these pictures, and the photographer only captured one of our group photos, so a lot of these moments would have been completely missed (photographically speaking) if we didn’t have our cameras.
Post # 9
Its a great idea!
but I would be maybe slightly offended just because as a guest, I would like the courtesy of phone usage and to take my own pictures If I choose to bring a camera or device for capturing those moments.
Post # 10
I even take issue with the fact that people worry about me being “focused” on their ceremony. I’m an adult, if I want to daydream during your ceremony then its my business.
Post # 11
It works for certain kinds of couples and guests. I find that articles on OBB don’t really translate well on the mainstream wedding sites like WB and others.
I think it’s a great idea. People are constantly on their phones and it’s annoying. I wouldn’t ask people to leave them at home, but to leave them in their pockets once the ceremony starts. I wouldn’t care about the rest of the day and the reception.
I just don’t want people up and moving around during the ceremony to take photos or a photo of all of our guests on their phones during our vows.
Post # 12
@LGenz: I agree with you whole heartedly. Sometimes I get really bored during ceremonies and if I want to take a picture of the pretty bird in the palm tree I will.
Post # 13
@LGenz: It’s one thing to quietly daydream during the ceremony, it’s another to be texting on your phone or interupting the ceremony with your digital camera’s clicks, beeps and flashes or getting in the real photographers’ ways. I suppose I can’t prevent guests from not caring about my ceremony, but I don’t think it’s too much to ask for that they at least sit quietly for 30 minutes. If you won’t even do that as a guest, seriously why come if it means that little to you?
Post # 14
I started a thread about this a while back. I just finished a photographer’s memoir in which she expressed annoyance that people holding up their phones to take pictures and video was hurting the shots the photographer was trying to take. All those arms in the air and the flashes mess up things for the formal pictures.
I don’t think my crowd is the type to be waving cell phones in the air, so I hope I don’t have to address this.
My thread: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/yay-or-naysign-requesting-cell-phones-turned-off
Post # 15
interesting, I like the idea of not having anyone post pictures of the wedding on twitter or facebook. just because I don’t like sharing pictures on my own FB page and something as personal as the wedding I wouldn’t want posted on FB. Especially since we’re having a immediate family only wedding I don’t want to hear any complaints from anyone commenting on pictures as to why they weren’t invited.
Our photographer has a clause in her contract that she is the sole photographer at the event , but she says its okay for guest to take photos at the reception. Which I am okay with.