(Closed) No plan to close the distance, and I may have made a mistake.

posted 7 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
Member
4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Personally, I don’t think you did anything wrong. You expressed your feelings and were honest, a big step in the right direction. How he will respond obviously no one knows. I think you were right to lay it all out on the line. Knowing he might not want to get engaged/married for at least another six years and having no end to the long distance relationship in sight, I can see where you would be frustrated.

Post # 4
Member
1013 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

 I went through a similiar situation with FI. We had alot of the same arguments. Then he asked me to move to be with him and I said that if I were to move there leaving my job friends and family that I would need something more. I told him I would but only if an engagement came with that. So he told me he was not ready and did not have the money yet so I told him that we would wait on it and I would continue my life here. Many months later after he had saved the money for the ring etc that he wanted we are engaged and I am planning my move there. You have every right to express how you feel.

Post # 5
Member
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I also had a breaking point one time in our long distance relationship, he had just visited me for 10 days, and when he left I was feeling so  miserable,  I had gone from being deliriously happy with him to suddenly being bereft it’s like a piece of me dies everytime he leaves

so I emailed him saying I couldnt do it anymore; it was too miserable; I find out later he got very upset by this email, but the next day I knew that was wrong and took it back but said the situation was becoming really unbearable what should we do, it broke my heart every time he left and it was becoming too difficult for me to continue this LD way, this was about 1 year of long distance  I was so happy with him but hated being apart; he agreed, but my meltdown brought it to head; so we finally started talking long-term plans and started solidifying plans and it made me really happy becuase he was talking long-term and I knew it was the real thing because he was talking of the future and how he could come to the US since he’s british, he wound up proposing maybe 10months later but we had several serious long-term talks leading up to that, I was more reassured when i found he wanted a future with me and even more so after he proposed

but you know if he really loves you he will pull through and will do anything to keep you and  make you happy just trust fate

The topic ‘No plan to close the distance, and I may have made a mistake.’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors