(Closed) No plus ones allowed wording.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Appropriate Invitation Wording to Designate No "Plus One"
    Just the invitee's name on the invitation is fine, people should know +1s aren't automatic : (23 votes)
    34 %
    Be in the safe side-- make it clear with addition language stating the # of guests invited : (44 votes)
    66 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think that’s fine, I just didnt do “and guest” and it turned into a nightmare of people adding on! I would totally do “___ of # accepts/regrets” if I could do it over again.

    Post # 4
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    1801 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I did the _ of # will attend and it worked wonderfully (in addition to listing each guest’s name on the inner envelope).  I did have 2 guests ask if they could bring someone, but if I hadn’t put that line I don’t think they would have even thought to ask, so it was very helpful.  I think that route is being clear without being rude at all.   And I’m super thankful to the Bee who blogged about this idea and numbering the back of the reply cards because if it weren’t for WB I wouldn’t have thought of this!

    Post # 5
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    7175 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    If I’ve learned anything in wedding planning, it’s: NEVER ASSUME ANYTHING!

    The more clear and question-free you can make things for people, the better.  

    I used both methods (the # of seats reserved on the RSVP card, and the clear wording of names on the envelope) and I STILL had questions from people asking if their child was invited…..

     

     

    Post # 6
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    654 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I agree with the language and will be doing that myself.  I also agree that I never would have thought about numbering my response cards if it weren’t for this site!  Awesome idea!

    Post # 8
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    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    we did “We have reserved __ seats in your honor” and it seemed to work just fine! Didnt have anyone bring a guest that wasnt invited or even try to do so by writing the name in!

    Post # 9
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    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I also did we have reserved _ seats & then _ out of _ will attend so far no add ins

    Post # 10
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    1801 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @AEMalmostK: We thought about the singles with a 1 being a little uncomfortable too, especially when we wrote one for my Grandma on my Dad’s side who is now a widow (widower?  I never know).  But better to be clear and upfront than risk it.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    we just had it marked by the names on the envelope, and had only 1 person ask about a guest. and, it was an out of town bridesmaid, so totally a legit question for her to ask

    Post # 12
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    59 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Please, please, learn from the nightmare I am currently in right now: DO NOT PUT A NUMBER ATTENDING and then a blank line on the invite. I am eating my words as I speak. I have found that people who have ZERO sense of etiquette (or people who simply don’t care) are viewing that little blank as a free for all and I’m currently having to say “okay, fine” to letting 8 uninvited guests come and that number is STILL growing. It’s to the point where we can’t afford, or seat them all. I agree with the ___ seats in your honor or the __ out of __ attending. If I could go back in time and fix mine to say either one of those, I DEFINITELY would. Good luck!

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I jsut didn’t put “and guest” on the envelope, and was only asked by one person to bring a guest that wasn’t intended to have one.  And really it was my issue, because I didn’t realize he had a long term girlfriend, and had extended a guest to his sister in the exact same situation.

    Post # 14
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    1057 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    There are ___1__ seat(s) reserved in your honor.

    Post # 15
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We did “__ out of # guest(s) will be in attendance” and we haven’t gotten any unexpected plus ones yet. I thought it was best to be clear.

    Post # 16
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @AEMalmostK: We’re doing the “We’ve reserved ___ seat(s) in your honor.  ___ of ___ guest(s) will attend” thing.  I don’t think it’s rude at all!

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