Post # 1
In the spirit of not driving SO insane, I have in the past few months began to focus my energy into some of my personal goals. The most recent venture is that I’m planning to take the LSAT and apply for August 2012 admission to law school. YAY me! Well, I plan to do an evening program that runs 3 hours/day for 3 nights/week for four years straight – fall/spring/summer. That doesn’t include study/homework time, and I will still work full-time. I was talking to SO about what a huge undertaking this is going to be and how we will have to sacrifice and be flexible with each other during this time. Then….it hit me. If we don’t get married before August 2012, there’s NO WAY I’m going to have the wherewithal to plan a wedding. AND there’s also NO WAY that I’m going to wait another 5 years to get married. I hate to use this as a cattle prod for SO, but what do I do? I don’t want to wait to go to law school (as I already feel my motivation dwindling), but I also don’t want to back us into a corner. AYE AYE AYE.
Post # 3
Honestly, if it were me, I would tell him exactly what you just said. Let him know you aren’t bringing this up with the intentions of pressuring him or forcing him into a position he’s uncomfortable with. But let him know that circumstances are requiring you talk about it and figure out a plan because you aren’t comfortable with waiting another 5 years to get married. Discuss your options. Hear him out. Let him know it’s a unique situation and you need to know exactly how he feels about it since it’s coming up so soon. Keep an open mind. And make sure he keeps an open mind as well.
Unique sitations need unique conversations. Doesn’t make you ring crazy or nagging. It makes you mature. 🙂
Post # 4
I agree with claireos, he needs to know how you feel. Good luck!
Post # 5
Hmmm, I don’t think you need to rush and get married before you go to school. I have seen ladies on here talk about how they were able to plan a wedding while in school. I’ve had the same concerns because I work full time and am in grad school, with a schedule similar to what yours will be. I think when the time comes, you will either find the time or make the time. It may require you to take a semester off to plan, or get help from family and friends, or even hire a wedding planner. But it can be done.
That said, I think it’s still fair to let your SO know your concern. I would just watch how you phrase it, because I can see how he might take it as pressure. If he is on the same page then go for it! But I just don’t see law school being a reason why you must rush and get married.
Post # 6
@Reign14: I 2nd that 1st part 🙂
Post # 7
I agree with the previous posters; I think that if you tell him, “I want to go to law school, and by the way, we have to be married before I go,” he’s going to think you’re trying to push him into marriage.
But I would also reconsider law school, in light of recent numbers…