(Closed) no proposal

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@stillwaiting123:  Hello! My advice for you is to sit down with him and actually have a conversation. Not the I want to get married. Like tell him what you just said how you have been around with his kids long enough and you want to take the next step.

 Good luck!!

Post # 4
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384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

Can i ask why you dont sleep in the same room when his children are around? That seems odd to me if they know you are his partner.  But i agree i think you and him should sit down and talk everything through, be honest with your feelings

Post # 5
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902 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - Rock Hill Country Club, Manorville NY

@Steph18:  I think she might mean sleep together not sleep together. lol 😉

Post # 6
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2609 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

sorry… he married someone ELSE during a breakup with you?

With admittedly limited knowledge of your relationship I’d say it sounds like you’re good enough in his eyes to keep around as a roommate and occaisonal sexual partner, but not as a “life” partner.  You need to sit him down and have this uncomfortable conversation because 50 is too old to be girlishly skating around something like this… and far FAR too young to waste another day on a man who doesn’t think you’re the one.

Post # 7
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@stillwaiting123:  It’s quite concerning to me that he married someone while you two were “off” yet has all this history with you and won’t commit. 

Post # 8
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384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@Jilliebean1:  oh. haha dont i feel dumb. That i understand more

Post # 9
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2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

From what I can gather, he seems to not want to fully incorporate you into his life. It sounds to me like he might not appreciate you, and take for granted the fact that you’ll always be around. I wouldn’t give him an ultimatum or nag him about marriage. I think he knows that you want to get married but is putting it off for some reason.  I’d get busy with other things in my life, and make myself less available. If he still doesn’t come around I’d move on. 

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