Post # 1
So, all my “BFF”‘s are no longer in contact with me or live near me anymore except one, who I already know will be my MOH, but I still need bridesmaids bc my FI has quite a few friends he wants as GM’s. So I thought of the following women to be my maids, what do you think?
-Wife of the best man, she and I are very friendly together but we’ve only hung out together without the men once
-Awesome friend I made in college this last semester, but only known her since September (i continue to have classes with her this semester until May)
-POSSIBLY FSIL… FI has advised me she may not be able to make all events or be able to afford the commitment and we’ve never spent time together except at her sons birthday, once.
What do you think? Are these good ideas for BM’s?
Post # 3
Just because your FI is having groomsmen doesn’t mean you need to have bridesmaids. I’d just go with the MOH since she is your good friend and someone you want to share your special day with.
Post # 4
I think FSIL is an excellent choice, assuming she is comfortable with the expense (be very up front about the cost of what you’re thinking of) or you can cover some of that expense for her. I wouldn’t worry about if she can attend all the extra events (shower, bach party). Those aren’t really necessary to being a bridesmaid.
The other two… ehhhh. Kind of awkward to me. When is your wedding? If it is a ways off (more than 6 – 8 months), I would work really hard on building strong relationships with those two over the next few months and then re-evaluate.
I totally understand wanting to have even numbers or not feel like you have no one on your side. It absolutely is an option for you to have less people than you FI does, but I know that some people really don’t like that option (I would be one of those too).
Could you and FI compromise? Come down to 2 or 3 on each side?
Post # 5
@ILoveMyKorat: thank you. I am contemplating not having any BM’s but I would feel pretty alone.
@NAvery: our wedding is about 1.5-2 years out. I think I will take this time to work on relationships with these ladies and then go from there.
Post # 6
I am having only my children in the wedding party as the MOH, FG, and RB. No other maids, he is having a Best man and his best friend is marrying us.
Post # 7
you could definitely just do a MOH think Kate Middleton & Pippa! I loved how it was all eyes on the two of them. Or how about little bridesmaids like she had in her wedding if you or your FI have any children in the family!?
Post # 8
our family only has boys lol we are sorely lacking in estrogen.