Post # 1
Hi! We are having a small destination wedding (40 guests). Because we are not doing a first look and are having an evening wedding we have VERY limited time for photos. My photographer said if we get mixed up in mingling after the ceremony we jeopardize our time. She wants us to be swept away for photos while the guests go on to the on-site cocktail hour. Is this impolite?
Also, I don’t want to really mess up my hair and makeup before photos with hugging and kissing. (that sounds bad I know)
Post # 3
If I am not mistaken, the receiving line used to be for the ceremony-only guests to give you their blessings before you headed to your more intimate reception. This has changed to a receiving line at the reception sometimes due to photos and such (and if the same folks are invited to the reception).
Are you guys doing a reception/dinner at the hotel? If so, you’re totally fine. 🙂
Post # 4
@WillyNilly: Yes, we are having a dinner reception. Because our wedding is small there will be plenty of time spent with each guest at the dinner. You made me feel so much better about this, thank you!
Post # 5
As long as you have time to greet each guest at some point I think you are fine. Most people don’t like receiving lines anyway! It’s a long wait and can get kind of awkward. Pictures during cocktail hour is the norm these days anyway.
Post # 6
Not rude at all imo. I hate receiving lines, its just awkward and not even genuine personal time cause you’re just trying to get through this formality.
Post # 7
Not rude. Just make sure you greet your guests at some point!
We’re skipping the receiving line since it just doesn’t work with our venue/timeline.
Post # 8
We are also having a small destination wedding. I had the same thought about the receiving line because I didnt really understand why it was necessary. I recently found out that it is ok to not do a receiving line for a small wedding, just make sure you go to each table and let everyone know you appreciate their presence at your wedding.
Post # 9
Thanks, everyone! I’m so glad to hear this is common!
Post # 10
I have never been to a wedding with a reception line and I’ve been to a a mixture of formal to casual weddings. I never heard of it before joining WB. I’ve experienced (and plan on for myself and FI) to greet everyone at their tables/while mingling.
Post # 11
I think it’s fine as long as you make sure to visit each guest during the reception. We are skipping it to allow more time for photos(so we can enjoy the end of our cocktail hour).
Post # 12
We had receiving line qualms, so our officiant suggested that we personally dismiss each row of guests following the ceremony. Fiance and I will exit, our bridal party will follow, and then Fiance and I will return to the front and personally dismiss each row. This will give us the chance to personally greet/thank each guest and will prevent my mother from bringing a receiving line to a standstill (with excessive greeting.) It also eliminates the need to get to each table during our reception. Fiance has the gift of gab, too (not limited to just my mother), so I am relieved with this solution.
Post # 13
I’ve only been to one wedding where there was a receiving line, and honestly, I don’t love it. Especially with such a small group, you’ll definitely have time to see everyone, almost every wedding I’ve been to the bride and groom immediately take pics. Just don’t take tooooo long so it isn’t hours without you at the party.