NO RECEPTION?!?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is ok if you elope.  However, a reception is how you thank guests for attending your wedding ceremony.  

Now, a reception doesn’t have to be a full plated meal with an open bar!  You can have your ceremony at a non-meal time and host a simple cake and punch reception, or even a limited beer & wine bar and appetizers.

Cutting the guest is the single most effective way to trim the budget.  You can also look into non-traditional venues like local parks or recreation centers, or if you have a friend or relative with a lovely back yard.  Buy the dress off the rack, keep decorations simple, and keep the wedding party small.  Also, you could have a brunch or lunch reception if you have a small enough wedding.  

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@DaneLady:  How many people are you planning on inviting? Less than 20, I would say you could do a cake and drink reception. 20+ you should have a little more than just cake.

No one wants to spend time getting dressed up if it is only for an hour or less. October 1st (your wedding date? I assume) is a wednesday. So some people will be taking off of work for it- regaurdless of time. Definitely have to have something after. 

 

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I was a “bridesmaid” in a friends wedding, she had no recption, but her wedding was a courthouse wedding and she called everyone the saturday before her wedding (she got married on a wednesday) and impulsivly had called the court house on friday just to see if they could get married there and when. 

Her plan is to have her reception on her 5 year anniversary. And she only had maybe 15 people at her ceremony

However if you are planning a wedding this far in advance, I think a reception is kind of required.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@madhrinko:  If it was me, I wouldn’t care to be perfectly honest, but I’m not really knowledgeable of ettiquette and whatnot. Sounds fine to me!

I probably wouldn’t travel very far if there was no reception unless I was close family or a BFF and there would be other opportunities to spend time with you and FI that day or week. Just something to keep in mind if you have guests coming from far away!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think it’s weird to just have a ceremony. I’ve never understood why you have to have a reception to thank someone for coming to the ceremony. I think it’s fine to just have a ceremony without a reception. As your friend I would be happy to watch you get married regardless of if there is a reception afterwards or not.

However, like PPs said, you can definitely do a reception without breaking the bank!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@madhrinko:  my entire wedding with about 125 guests will be under 5k. Things don’t have to break the bank! I would definitely do some sort of reception. Even hor dourves and dessert would be fine. or Just a dessert reception. Depending on your social circle and the formality of your ceremony you could even do a potluck reception. Most bees would sniff into their handkerchiefs at the idea but its fine in my circle.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We are having a simple reception of light refreshments, cake, punch, coffee and tea (we do not drink alcohol).  That is running $10/per person. Our day-after pig roast will feature roasted pig, corn, and beans, with a price tag of $7/per person. Plus we will provide two kegs of beer (even though we do not drink), soda and coffee. So we figure it will cost $20-$21/per person total. The venue for the reception is free (the conference center at the college where I teach) and renting the picnic grounds cost $250. The picnic grounds can accommodate over 500 people, has restrooms, covered pavilions, a kitchen, a bar area, horseshoe pits, volleyball court and a softball diamond. Our entire wedding, including the reception, and the pig roast will cost 5K and I already have most of that paid.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I think it’d be fine without a reception.  You could also do a very simple, cheap, casual reception.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@madhrinko: 

Thank goodness I finally found someone else who isn’t having a reception! We’d heading to the registry office with a small amout of family and that’s that. We can’t afford a reception, and neither of us even want one. I can’t be doing with all that, it’s just not me… or him.

Nope. Married and then home for a cup of tea and a cuddle. Kiss

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Little_Hedgy:  wow!!!! how did you have so many people on such a small budget??

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@madhrinko:  I think if you are doing things like sending formal invitations and expecting people to travel across state it is standard to at least give them something to eat, or make it explicitly clear that there will be no reception.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Cake and punch immediately following is a super simple way to celebrate with everyone. You can even roll that out where you say your vows.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

cake and punch are fine as long you have it at an appropriate time. Don’t have only cake and punch at dinner time for example.

 

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