Post # 1
My Fiance and I really simple people. We dont need alot of frills and extras. The same is true for our families. So we decided on a reception that incorporates our favorite colors, and just a simple dinner, dancing and enjoying ourselves.
A friend is getting married in a few months and she is having a reception thats very in the moment hollywood glamour, with very modern ultra chic seating and decorations. I like her ideas but they arent for me. She gently pointed out that all receptions have themes and that people have come to expect.
Bee’s is this true? Does my reception have to have a theme? I dont want to plan a theme because Fiance and I very different. So we opted for our favorite colors and favorite foods for our wedding and our favorite music to dance too.
Am I letting people down if I dont have a theme?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
The theme train has been a recent development driven by wedding planners and shows. There is no need to have a theme for your wedding or reception.
Post # 4
I don’t think anyone even cares about a theme except the person who planned it (usually the bride). Here is the basic “theme” for me of almost every wedding reception I’ve been to: eat, drink, catch up with family and/or old friends I don’t see often enough, laugh, take pictures, dance my butt off, happily see the bride and groom off, done. And I wouldn’t have it any other way. If having a theme makes someone happy, that’s great for them, but I don’t really think guests care at all.
Post # 5
@Eglantine: Totally agreed. “Wedding” is an entirely appropriate theme.
Post # 6
No, you definitely don’t need a theme! People asked me what our “theme” was and we didn’t have one! Of course after the wedding, I would say our theme was love, family, and fun! 😉
Post # 7
Your friend is mistaken. No one NEEDS a theme. It can help those who have trouble being consistent in the decision making stay on track, but in no way is it mandatory.
Post # 8
I never wanted a theme in the first place because we just dont care. The only reason we arent eloping is because our kids will never forgive us. Family and parents are cool with whatever we want to do since this is a second marriage for us both. However our children became upset when we talked about eloping. So we decided on food we love, music we love, and colors and thats that.
No biggie, probably wont even be all that elegant, we are mainly just doing it for our kids.
Its a 40 person wedding,
Post # 9
I didn’t have a theme. heck I didn’t even have colors and I only found out that a lot of people do colors joining WB
Post # 10
Guests don’t expect themes unless they’re also the type of people that expect brides to wear $5000 dresses a la SYTTD. Guests to expect to have a good time and enjoy celebrating with you….which it sounds like your guests will!!
I’m anti-theme. I was anti-“colours” too ahhahaha. Every time someone asked, “Ooooh, what are your colours?”, I’d scrunch up my face and say, “I don’t have any colours.” and then I’d get the blank, does-not-compute look. In the end, the WIC beat me down though when I met with the florist for my bouquet and I had to choose something and didn’t want white so my “colours” came from my hubby’s tie.
Same with the theme. If a couple wants a really developed theme and has the time/cash/inclination to make it happen, go for it. I didn’t. Tables had candle hurricanes and a small posy of roses as centrepieces and tealights everywhere. That was it.
Post # 11
Great question I wanted to know this also and I am glad to know because we dont have a theme either. We have picked our colors?? So that is one thing checked off the list NO THEME Needed
Post # 12
No theme necessary. You don’t even need colors. As long as your guests are fed and taken care of, no one can complain!
We had a “book” theme because we couldn’t afford a florist so I made the flowers out of paper and used stacks of used hardcover books as centerpieces, but if I’d had a higher budget to work with, we wouldn’t have had a theme at all.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
In my opinion, the theme thing is kind of goofy unless you both are really into some particular hobby / time period / etc (nerdy games, 1920s glamour, etc). For us, we’re both really outdoorsy and fun-loving, so our reception is going to have elements like that (set in a beautiful outdoors location, wildflowers, lawn games, lots of bright colors). But we don’t have a “theme” per se, and you definitely don’t need one.
The theme of every wedding should be love, fun, family, friendship, celebration!
Post # 14
Nope, no theme necessary! 🙂
Post # 15
When my fiance and I went to check out the reception venue that we ended up choosing, the woman who was helping us asked us what our theme was. I stopped, sat there for a minute or two, and said, “…food?”
“Food is your theme?” she asked.
I hadn’t thought about a theme at all, so I just looked at my fiance, then looked back at her and said, “Yep, food is the theme. Lots of food and dancing. Food and music is our theme.”
haha, I didn’t realize that it would be expected that we would have a theme chosen. I’m sticking with food and music!
Post # 16
It’s a wedding, not a 5 yr olds birthday party! Just tell her your theme is Classic Elegance. Aka – not spending a lot of money and random decorations no one will notice. That should shut her up.