(Closed) No reception theme..is it required?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

The theme train has been a recent development driven by wedding planners and shows.  There is no need to have a theme for your wedding or reception.

Post # 4
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t think anyone even cares about a theme except the person who planned it (usually the bride). Here is the basic “theme” for me of almost every wedding reception I’ve been to: eat, drink, catch up with family and/or old friends I don’t see often enough, laugh, take pictures, dance my butt off, happily see the bride and groom off, done. And I wouldn’t have it any other way. If having a theme makes someone happy, that’s great for them, but I don’t really think guests care at all.

Post # 6
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No, you definitely don’t need a theme! People asked me what our “theme” was and we didn’t have one! Of course after the wedding, I would say our theme was love, family, and fun! 😉

Post # 7
46240 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your friend is mistaken. No one NEEDS a theme. It can help those who have trouble being consistent in the decision making stay on track, but in no way is it mandatory.

Post # 9
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I didn’t have a theme. heck I didn’t even have colors and I only found out that a lot of people do colors joining WB

Post # 10
1622 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Guests don’t expect themes unless they’re also the type of people that expect brides to wear $5000 dresses a la SYTTD.  Guests to expect to have a good time and enjoy celebrating with you….which it sounds like your guests will!! 

I’m anti-theme.  I was anti-“colours” too ahhahaha.  Every time someone asked, “Ooooh, what are your colours?”, I’d scrunch up my face and say, “I don’t have any colours.” and then I’d get the blank, does-not-compute look.  In the end, the WIC beat me down though when I met with the florist for my bouquet and I had to choose something and didn’t want white so my “colours” came from my hubby’s tie.  

Same with the theme.  If a couple wants a really developed theme and has the time/cash/inclination to make it happen, go for it.  I didn’t.  Tables had candle hurricanes and a small posy of roses as centrepieces and tealights everywhere.  That was it.  

Post # 11
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Great question I wanted to know this also and I am glad to know because we dont have a theme either. We have picked our colors??  So that is one thing checked off the list NO THEME Needed

Post # 12
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

No theme necessary.  You don’t even need colors.  As long as your guests are fed and taken care of, no one can complain!

We had a “book” theme because we couldn’t afford a florist so I made the flowers out of paper and used stacks of used hardcover books as centerpieces, but if I’d had a higher budget to work with, we wouldn’t have had a theme at all.

Post # 13
9217 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

In my opinion, the theme thing is kind of goofy unless you both are really into some particular hobby / time period / etc (nerdy games, 1920s glamour, etc).  For us, we’re both really outdoorsy and fun-loving, so our reception is going to have elements like that (set in a beautiful outdoors location, wildflowers, lawn games, lots of bright colors).  But we don’t have a “theme” per se, and you definitely don’t need one. 

The theme of every wedding should be love, fun, family, friendship, celebration!

Post # 14
23636 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Nope, no theme necessary! 🙂

Post # 15
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

When my fiance and I went to check out the reception venue that we ended up choosing, the woman who was helping us asked us what our theme was.  I stopped, sat there for a minute or two, and said, “…food?”

“Food is your theme?” she asked.

I hadn’t thought about a theme at all, so I just looked at my fiance, then looked back at her and said, “Yep, food is the theme.  Lots of food and dancing.  Food and music is our theme.”

haha, I didn’t realize that it would be expected that we would have a theme chosen.  I’m sticking with food and music!

Post # 16
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s a wedding, not a 5 yr olds birthday party! Just tell her your theme is Classic Elegance. Aka – not spending a lot of money and random decorations no one will notice. That should shut her up.

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