Post # 1
My Darling Husband and I have been invited to a wedding where the bride and groom have not created a registry of any kind (gift or honeymoon). The bride and groom do not have any plans on creating a registry.
We do not plan on attending and feel awkward sending money……
Anyone else been in this situation? What did you do??????
Post # 3
@californiabride2013: I agree, if you can’t go sending money is awkward. I always give cash at weddings but I had to miss one in October and the idea of sending money just felt weird. I bought them a really (IMO) nice 8×10 silver Kate Spade picture frame that has a small ‘Mr. & Mrs’ engraved in the corner. I know it’s her taste (I assume his as well) and I thought it was an appropriate gift. I included the gift receipt for good measure.
Post # 4
Send them a card and a gift basket. Gift baskets always have delectable goodies and some even have wine 🙂
Post # 5
@californiabride2013: I usually send a physical gift if I can’t attend a wedding as well, but I think (as we have all seen on the boards) that when a couple doesn’t register, its usually because they would prefer money. Maybe they are saving up for a home or want some big ticket items? Although it is a bit awkward, I would just send them a check.
Post # 6
Some people feel awkward because the recipients know exactly what you spent when you send a cheque or cash, but the reality is they also know exactly what you spent when you buy something off the registry.
I don’t see any difference between mailing a cheque and enclosing it in an envelope to be presented at the wedding.
I would send a cheque.
Post # 7
If you don’t feel comfortable sending a check, get something that you think fits the bride and groom’s taste.
Do they love wine? You could get them a really nice bottle or wine or champagne. Are they foodies? You could get a gift card to a nice specialty store (cheese shop, wine shop, Sur La Table) or a nice restaurant in the area. We’ve done this at work for our group gift to cowokers getting married when they don’t have a registry.
I’d probably just send a check but I know not everyone likes to do that.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone….. I usually like to send a gift off the registry because I can usually find something that is affordable and useful. I know the bride and groom are looking for cash because I think they are paying for part of the wedding.. I just have a hard time figuring out how much money to give when I do not attend. I come from an area where cover my plate is the norm so I usually give 100-150 per person.