No Registry- what do I give as a gift?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: No registry- not attending wedding- what do we give as gift?
    money : (22 votes)
    69 %
    gift card : (9 votes)
    28 %
    other : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    9919 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @californiabride2013:  I agree, if you can’t go sending money is awkward.  I always give cash at weddings but I had to miss one in October and the idea of sending money just felt weird.  I bought them a really (IMO) nice 8×10 silver Kate Spade picture frame that has a small ‘Mr. & Mrs’ engraved in the corner.  I know it’s her taste (I assume his as well) and I thought it was an appropriate gift.  I included the gift receipt for good measure.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Send them a card and a gift basket. Gift baskets always have delectable goodies and some even have wine 🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    1193 posts
    Bumble bee

    @californiabride2013:  I usually send a physical gift if I can’t attend a wedding as well, but I think (as we have all seen on the boards) that when a couple doesn’t register, its usually because they would prefer money. Maybe they are saving up for a home or want some big ticket items? Although it is a bit awkward, I would just send them a check.

    Post # 6
    Member
    42538 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Some people feel awkward because the recipients know exactly what you spent when you send a cheque or cash, but the reality is they also know exactly what you spent when you buy something off the registry.

    I don’t see any difference between mailing a cheque and enclosing it in an envelope to be presented at the wedding.

    I would send a cheque.

    Post # 7
    Member
    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    If you don’t feel comfortable sending a check, get something that you think fits the bride and groom’s taste. 

    Do they love wine?  You could get them a really nice bottle or wine or champagne.  Are they foodies?  You could get a gift card to a nice specialty store (cheese shop, wine shop, Sur La Table) or a nice restaurant in the area.  We’ve done this at work for our group gift to cowokers getting married when they don’t have a registry. 

    I’d probably just send a check but I know not everyone likes to do that.

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