(Closed) NO rehearsal dinner? thoughts?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

If you’re having a destination wedding and half of your guests will already be there for the rehearsal, then yes I think you should have something for them.  It can be completely optional but I’d consider something very simple like a cook out or pizza or a local restaurant.  Nothing fancy, but I do think you should consider hosting your guests for both nights.

Post # 4
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m not having a rehearsal dinner. My wedding is on a Sunday and our “rehearsal” is on Thursday afternoon. I’m not even sure if anyone (besides family) will be able to come to the rehearsal, as groomsmen & bridesmaids have work and we feel bad asking them to take it off. As for out-of-towners, my side won’t really have any and while FI’s side does, we are leaving it up to his family to do a dinner for them if they want. 

Both sets of our parents are paying for the wedding, so we told them we would prefer not to have a rehearsal dinner and for that money to go towards the actual wedding.

Post # 5
674 posts
Busy bee

I’ll be interested to see what other bees think of this question because I could see myself in the same situation (though with a smaller guest list).

Post # 6
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding that did not have a rehearsal dinner. I did all the flowers for the wedding and drove 45 minutes each way for the rehearsal and then again for the wedding. Myself and the other BMs were offended that we were not important enough to take out to dinner, no matter how nice or casual.

I think a rehearsal dinner is expected and necessary.

Post # 7
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t want to do it? Then don’t! It’s up to you! You are already thanking your guests by having the wedding meal and drinks. Or, if you just want to keep it light, maybe suggest rehearsal cocktails instead of a dinner?

Post # 8
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i am thinking about doing the same thing but we are not havin a Destination Wedding so you got my vote

Post # 9
2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

For a Destination Wedding not only is it appropriate to have a rehearsal dinner, but you should throw a welcome dinner for everyone who took the time and money to attend.

I would have a Rehearsal Dinner and invite everyone. Period.

Post # 10
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We are having a destination wedding as well. The rehearsal dinner will be on the Friday that everyone will be arriving. While we wont be a doing a welcome dinner as suggested above, we will be possibly putting visa check cards into everyones welcome gifts so that they can have dinner on us though

Post # 11
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Agree with previous posters about having a welcome dinner.  You don’t have to call it a rehearsal dinner, but for a destination wedding it’s nice to have a dinner for everyone.  I’m having a destination wedding and our rehearsal dinner is going to be a welcome dinner for everyone.

Post # 12
1994 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

You could always do a cocktail hour after the rehersal.  If it’s earlier in the day, maybe a quick light brunch. Maybe just cake & punch? But either way, I feel like you should do something.  I would even do this in addition to a welcome dinner.

Post # 13
520 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You should have a rehearsal dinner/welcome dinner. I think rehearsal dinners are always good (no matter how fancy or not fancy they are) to thank your wedding party and families. Since you are having a destination wedding, this seems even more important to me since everyone is taking extra time and money to come. I would just invite all the guests that will be there, and you will get to have an extra celebration with them. 

Post # 14
1866 posts
Buzzing bee

@goldendreams:  I think if you are having a Destination Wedding then you should have a dinner for the guests.  

Post # 15
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Well since your guests have paid a lot of money to travel for your Destination Wedding, yes, I think some sort of welcome dinner/rehearsal dinner would be a polite way to show your thanks. 

Post # 16
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My friend did a dw- we went to eat sushi and went bowling- all on our own dime. No one made a big deal about it, we all had fun.

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