Post # 1
So my wedding coordinator e-mailed me today. Guess what. There’s a wedding on the Friday before mine. So that means we can’t rehearse on Friday night. She said, how about Thursday night? Or Friday morning?! Well, about 80% of our wedding party are OOT. So that means, no and no. The next “best” option is Saturday morning. I’m kind of sad about that, because I don’t want to see my FI before the wedding. It’s not THAT big of a deal though. Also, we are having a bridesmaid’s luncheon the day of as well. So that just adds a lot to the day.
I’m trying to remain calm about this, and ultimately it doesn’t matter. But it’s just annoying. Anyone else in my shoes? And does this mean I don’t have to plan a rehearsal dinner? 🙂
Post # 3
Our venue typically has weddings on Friday night, so we are planning on having the rehearsal in the room where we’re having the rehearsal dinner. They won’t get to walk down the actual aisle, but at least everyone will know what order they’re in and how the ceremony will flow.
Post # 4
@kperry3: I know that this is going to sound crazy, but you don’t actually need your groom at the rehearsal. He just stands there really and then walks you back down the aisle. I think our rehearsal really didn’t even need to happen in hinde sight. As long as your group is mature they will know what to do anyways.
Post # 5
It may not be perfect, but could you rehearse some where else? A park or something where you can kind of mark out the aisle length/width so at least you can get an idea but don’t have to add so much to your actual wedding day?
Post # 6
@mwitter80: “I know that this is going to sound crazy, but you don’t actually need your groom at the rehearsal.”
WB cut me off 🙁
At first I was like what!? Of course he has to be there. But then I thought about it, and I guess he really doesn’t have to be. lol
Post # 7
@floridabride12: love this idea.
Also – when are most people getting into town? Have flights been booked? Perhaps you could do one on Thursday night with those that are there (or at least, just FI).
Post # 8
my SIL actually had her rehearsal dinner on a thursday night and i thought huh..strange? but it actually eneded up being awesome. we got to really enjoy the night without haveing to worry about being up and at it first thing in the morning for the wedding – the younger crowd even hit up a neat jazz club until the wee hours of the morning and then we had all day friday to run around and finish up little tasks here and there for the wedding and work off those ahem..hangovers.
I liked the idea so much that i actually asked if i could do a thursday night rehearsal but the church wouldnt let me – so if you can swing a thursday i say go for it! otherwise friday morning might work and maybe do rehearsal luncheon?
Post # 9
We are doing a pseudo rehearsal at our dinner venue, I don’t see it being a big problem. You could do that and then do it again the next day w/o the groom, if everyone else knows what’s going on he should be able to figure it out.
Post # 10
Can you do it somewhere else? I mean, the guys just stand there the whole time and the bridesmaids walk down the aisle. Then the officiant goes through whatever they go through and you do any extra things that you will do. It doesn’t have to be in that place unless you have some crazy venue with complicated walk ways or set up.
Post # 11
@mwitter80: I’m not worried about my groom not being there… if he doesn’t want to see me the day of and not rehearse, I’m totally fine with that. I also don’t mind if a few GM or BMs can’t make it. But the entire party? That won’t work. And especially my officiate (my brother) needs to be there, and the reader (my other brother) needs to be there because he would be lost without actually rehearsing. Haha!
@floridabride12: I could do that, but it’s up to my wedding coordinator really. She is the one who will be telling people when to go, etc, and if she can’t be there too coordinate the rehearsal… then it’s not worth it IMO. Plus, she has to be at the wedding to coordinate that wedding. Also, my venue is very tricky, plus my bagpiper won’t even be there… so I need some constant as far as the rehearsal goes.
@oracle: The important people who need to be there won’t get in until Friday afternoon. So we basically have to do it Saturday morning. I’m sure flights could be changed, but that would be a lot of maneuvering just to have a rehearsal IMO.
@Miss Tattoo: Yea, my venue is complicated. And we need the wedding coordinator there to help out. But it’s possible to do it at the dinner site.. we’ll see. Maybe if I “rehearsed” with my coordinator, then took over the real rehearsal so everyone would have their place… just maybe that would work.
Thanks bees!!!! 🙂