Post # 1
My boyfriend and I have been living with each other for a year and were friends for two years before that. We knew we would like to get married but knew we both were not ready yet. We recently talked about it again and both are very ready and excited to get married but very broke.
I talked to my mom (who is excited-like-a-kid- in-a-candy-store about it). I told her, very dismally, how can we get married? We don’t even have money for rings right now. Her reply “You know, you don’t HAVE to have a ring.” Of course, my boyfriend is working on getting one and has asked me what I like and I know he is eager to officially propose.
I will be the first to admit that I like expensive things and usually very good at spending money. The current no-ring situation is a constant reminder to me that it is not about a sparkly ring, or fancy dress (and not saying anyone else on this board does either!). But for myself, who is easily caught up in all the other “stuff”, it gets me back to the basics. Our marriage is about US loving each other and how strong we are together. If that makes any sense 🙂
The only thing I have a hard time with is telling anyone which is SO HARD too! I get the impression that people think you are a nut if you say youre engaged but yet don’t have a ring. So we have been planning and already have our honeymoon booked but I have been keeping it on the down low.
BTW, we have a date for August 20, 2011.
Post # 3
First of all congratulations on your engagement and on the commitment you are making to each other!! Secondly, you are not nuts. Everyone is entitled to do it differently. If that works for you guys, that’s perfect! And you get to be married this year!!! 🙂
I was just thinking at how expensive rings can be….I personally and paying for half of mine. My SO and i make the same salary and I wouldn’t let him pay for the whole thing himself. Same for the wedding, it’ll come out of both our finances.
Post # 4
@carebear22: good for you! when i was initially dreaming about getting angaged to my boyfriend, i too got caught up in the material aspect. but after i have had months with no proposal, he could propose to me with a twist-tie and i would say yes! that is how i know it is real, and not about just wanting a ring or a dress.
august is so soon! where are you going on your honeymoon? have fun and enjoy the ride 🙂
you should post pictures when you do have a ring in the future
Post # 5
Thank you, ladies. We are very excited. He has poked fun at me that I am going to be just balling tears when I walk down the aisle! Oh dear, I think he is right.
Decided to use my tax return for the wedding which is the only way we can pull it off this year. The majority of it is going to our honeymoon. Which is in Hawaii!! We have been talking about going there for a long time so it made sense. We would actually have gotten married next month if we could get away from our crazy schedules!
I didn’t even try to ask to help out with the ring cost. We always split costs on everything but I know that is something he really wants to do himself.
Post # 6
Congrats! I love this. So many brides get so caught up in the ring, when it’s really the engagement you should be excited about. Myself included. You’ve definitely got your head in the right place, which will make for an awesome engagement!
Post # 7
Congrats! I agree with the PP a lot of people get caught up with the ring and forget about the commitment it symolizes myself included. Your wedding is only a couple months away yay!
Post # 8
Yay! Congrats! And great date selection! (Our anniversary is 8/20, I hope to get married on 8/20/12, even if it is a Monday…)
Post # 9
I don’t have a ring!! We both thought it was a waste of money and we didn’t like the gender imbalance of it. But I am no less engaged. 🙂 (As I was reminded last weekend, when I put down a heart-stopping deposit on our caterer…)
Post # 10
@carebear22: I love where your head is at. I could use a little dose of that myself. We are full-on planning after finding the perfect location and I get pretty darn upset that I don’t have my ring yet. Good for you! Don’t let people get you down, you have a great outlook on it.