No ring no engagement?

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Are you engaged if there is no ring to show for it?
    Yes, of course. : (101 votes)
    77 %
    Yes, but only after you have made your final wedding plans. : (11 votes)
    8 %
    No. Get a ring on that finger! : (20 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Jeo4500:  I feel like it’s situationally dependent. If a couple can’t afford or don’t want a ring, then totally they are engaged. If however, a ring is coming eventually I don’t think you are engaged till you get it

    Post # 3
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    1568 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It is very dependant on your current situation. I was engaged well before he proposed and honestly I am happy to say that I was not ring engaged for a while and that was perfectly fine. I do however say that a woman who is planning her wedding behind her SOs back (they are out there) is a little over the top and you are not engaged.

    Post # 4
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    1793 posts
    Buzzing bee

    If a couple has made a joint decision to get married they are engaged, period.  The ring is not required and concrete wedding plans aren’t required.  What is required is the joint decision to get married.

    Post # 5
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    390 posts
    Helper bee

    For me, I won’t feel the engagement is official until I get the ring and the proposal. He has the ring, we’ve discussed dates and timelines about the wedding & babies, and I have moved in. It’s kind of an odd stage between “engaged” and “dating”.

     

    Post # 6
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    588 posts
    Busy bee

    If you have a date and have booked anything for your wedding, you’re engaged. The ring is a tradition that not everyone takes part in. I had one, but we were already planning our wedding – ie. meetings with venues, before I had it on my finger and we considered ourselves engaged.

    Post # 7
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    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    you do not need a ring. All you need is what PPs said. My husband and I had a venue booked and a date and I didn’t get the ring until later. Everyone considered us engaged. It doesn’t make you more or less engaged than the next couple. He is in the military and wanted me to pick it out with him.

    Post # 8
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    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    SomedayHisBride:  I feel the same way. And I currently hate the word girlfriend with a passion lol.

    Post # 9
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    889 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Jeo4500:  If someone has proposed to their partner and they are making wedding plans then they are engaged (with or without a ring). An engagement ring is a symbol of this but it’s not the be all and end all. I know a few people who didn’t bother with a ring at all…they were still engaged to be married! 

    With FI and I, we talked about engagement rings and he knew I always wanted to design one together and get it custom made at a certain jewellers so the proposal itself was ‘ring free’ and it was about 2 months before i got my ring. We were still very much engaged though… told all our family and friends, booked our venue, paid deposits etc

    Post # 10
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    1568 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I know someone who has an engagement car…SO enviouos.

    Post # 11
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    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Waitingbee57:  one of those real housewives got an engagement ring and an engagement Rolex. I told my SO that I wouldn’t mind and engagement ring and an engagement trip to Dairy Queen (I have marked every major moment in my life, for school plays to getting accepted to med school with a trip to DQ to get a blizzard) but a Rolex may be pushing it 🙂

    Post # 12
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    594 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    You don’t need a ring to be engaged. Someone needs to propose and have the other person accept and you’re engaged. Men are engaged without rings every day, so why can’t a woman be engaged without one? 

    Post # 13
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    1108 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    If your SO asks you to marry him/her, and you accept, you are engaged.

    Post # 14
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    1108 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Hmmmm … we are going to City Hall to get married.  I know that they’re going to leave the ring part out.  Will that make us not married?

    I also know a lot of men who don’t wear wedding rings.  Does that make them not married?

    Post # 15
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    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Jeo4500:  we got engaged late january 2013. He proposed long distance without a ring because he couldnt wait any longer to propose AND knew id always wanted to choose my own ring. Once we were engaged it took time for me to choose, order and have my ring made. So I never had a ring till March after getting engaged in Jan, but with no ring I was definitely still engaged.

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