Post # 1
I just need to scream, cry and vent…. so here I am.
I’ve mentioned before that SO and I went ring shopping back in August. At that time he told me the when and how was up to him, but that it wouldn’t be far off. Skip to Christmas. I was really hoping for a holiday proposal but it never happened. He confessed at that time he had the ring but wasn’t into a xmas proposal but that it was VERY close. So I kept my lips shut.
Today is our 4 year anniversary, anddddddd I got zilch. Not even a card!!! I really thought I was going to get the ring, but what’s killing me inside is that he hasn’t acknowledged anything!! I have him his card and gift, cooked up a steak dinner and all he said was Thanks and gave me a kiss. WTF???!?!?
I’m not one to be overly upset over things like this, but I think I have a right to be pissed. I love him, but seriously???!??!?!
Post # 3
Do you think he is throwing you off or something?
Post # 4
@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics: Not even a card and he is still alive!?!?!?! Man I would be furious. Did you ask him why no card or gift? I know you are mainly annoyed because no ring but at least you know it’s coming
Post # 5
well it’s only 7 pm, is it possible it’s in the making?
Post # 6
Are you sure he doesn’t have something up his sleeve? You’d think he’d at least get a card or something but maybe he’s trying to throw you off?
Also, I know that lots of us think that holidays and anniversaries are prime days to get engaged but a lot of guys I know are very anti-other-important-days to propose. My Fiance proposed on a semi-random day in March. My BIL proposed on a random Thursday.
Post # 7
At this point it has nothing to do with the ring. Yes, I wanted it. But he must have another date in mind which is fine. What gets my blood going is that he has not acknowledged it’s our anniversary. He hasn’t said “Happy Anniversary!”
He said thanks to his gifts, gave me a kiss and that was it. After dinner I came into the room and slammed the door. I seriously cannot vocalize to him how pissed I am.
I feel like saying “Oh ya, I get you expensive gifts all the time and an anniversary card everyday” I just don’t understand him…….. I’m clueless. I can’t talk to him until I cool down. I have a knack for saying the wrong things and making matters worse, which is why I’m talking to you ladies 🙂
Post # 8
whatever you do try to stay calm… IF he is up to something you dont want to ruin it so sending calm vibes to help you get through the next few hours/days
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings
Hopefully he has something else planned… *fingers crossed*
If not, I say let loose on him. Sometimes men need a huge kick in the butt.
Post # 11
I agree with PP, it sounds like a set-up. If he’s one to normally get you a card or gift on occasions like this, I’d try to give him the benefit of the doubt!
Post # 12
you can always try to force his hand. go out, go to the movies or the store or something and see if he tries to hold you back.
Post # 13
I think you need to stay calm tonight and if by tomorrow, still nothing, THEN have a go at him. Don’t do it tonight in case, as the other bees have said, he has something up his sleeve….
Post # 14
Thanks guys!!! Perfect advice, I’ll let it go tonight but may talk to him tomorrow about the lack of acknowledging the anniversary, I wont mention the ring.
Post # 15
Wow you’re a stronger woman than I am…I don’t know if I could chill when it’s our anniversary and he hasn’t even acknowledged it!! ah :-O you poor thing. I am sending positive vibes your way!!
Post # 16
@mcklough: Ok good, glad you pointed out the time because I was wondering how late it is where OP is. (For me, it is now Thursday.)
OP, it is EARLY and you’re probably not reading this as you’re being proposed to right now.
If it doesn’t happen tonight, talk to him (maybe tomorrow?) about why no card, etc.. Maybe don’t assume you’re getting nothing until today is up, though.