Post # 1
Our wedding is about 50 days away. We are paying for it ourselves and it will be really, really small. His parents are coming from really far and originally they were going to pay for a honeymoon for us as a gift, but it looks like if they DO give us money, we will be using it for other things. We live on Oahu, Hawaii (perfect honeymoon destination? But not if you live here.) and the hotels are seriously OUTRAGEOUS. We had originally planned to go to another island and stay for a few days but we don’t even want to spend that much anymore. Our honeymoon plan evolved from Mexico, to Hawaiian Island, to Waikiki, to now staying in our new apartment the day we get married. Maybe it’s just my opinion, but the night you get married should be something EXTREMELY special because that’s your first night of the rest of your lives, right? You would be getting away from the world?! My fiance doesn’t seem to see the light in this and just believes that we don’t have the money, the end. We have to pay a lot of money right after the wedding for immigtration papers, so I understand, but this is important to me. I don’t know, I’d rather spend $100 for one night at a cheap airport hotel than stay in our new apartment? We can’t move in until the day before our wedding so that just sounds WAY too stressful.
This is probably coming off as a rant, it’s pretty late at night here. But I guess I am asking for suggestions? Waikiki is horribly expensive, vacation rentals are ridiculous, everything is just overpriced.
Post # 3
Stay one night in a hotel. We didn’t have the time or want to spend the money on a big honeymoon. We stayed the first night in a hotel room and that was it. I don’t feel like we missed out.
Post # 4
So this is where word of mouth comes in handy. Tell your MoH or another gossipy, well connected member of your wedding (MoB, best man) that it looks like you aren’t going to be able to get away after your wedding, even for a night. Then say, if people ask you for gift ideas, credit card/hotel points to use towards your wedding night would mean the world to you.
My Future Father-In-Law travels a week out of every month for work and has tons of points. If he knew we were having trouble affording a room, he would call up Hilton and we would be staying at the closest Hilton/Hampton Inn. He would do this for anyone– he is never going to use those points.
Post # 5
@pollywog is 100% right. Most people let their points go to waste. Perhaps you conight do the hotel night in lieu of another expense?
or…. Get creative! You can make $100 easily selling old clothes or stuff you and your Fiance are no longet using on Craigslist. you could surprise him!!!
best of luck!
Post # 6
I would rather stay in my own apartment before spending my weding night in a crappy hotel so when you say cheap airport hotel, you need to judge if cheap = crappy as I”ve seen cheap hotels that are acceptable and others that are not. If I was planning in a $100 bdget, I think I would rather spend our first night married together in our new apartment, it being your first night ever in said apartment is kind of special in itself. Then I would do something fun the next day with the $100 budget. Maybe something like parasailing or more calm like a nice dinner out or go to a local theatre performance. Something that is a bit touristy and not your normal life as a way to celebrate being married would be more fun for me then spending the night in a hotel by the airport as you will get there late after wour wedding and then have to check out the next morning so its not like you could spend the afternoon in the hot tub or by the pool.
Post # 7
I would save up and take a honeymoon 6 months down the line. Chances are you’ll get some money as gifts and that can be a jump start to saving for it
Post # 8
Save up and honeymoon later.
Post # 9
could you do something like camping or a cheaper hotel option? just to make it special. i agree it would be nice to get away from you apartment and make you wedding night something special, even if not a whole week.
Post # 10
If you will have a brand new presumably empty apartment, could you possibly only move in a few essential/special things and leave the rest of your possessions elsewhere for a couple of days? If you just moved in, say a bed and a coffee pot and a bunch of flowers and candles that seems like it might make for a pretty special wedding night. Perhaps a friend or family member would be willing to set this up for you. Then a day or two later move in the rest of your stuff and actually set up house.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Can you go camping? Camping in Hawaii is cheap and awesome! I’ve heard it’s really important to have a little time as a honeymoon to recover from the craziness of the wedding and to spend time just the two of you relaxing. So even if you stay in your apartment, I agree with the PP who said to set it up romantically and then DON’T do more moving / unpacking! Just relax!
Post # 12
If the first night is so special to you, spend $50 on some candles, chocolate, strawberries, wine, cheese, etc. Spruce up your apartment and make the ambiance as romantic as you want it. There is nothing romantic about an airport hotel.
Post # 13
I rather stay in my apt and make the most of it than waste 100 bucks I dont have on a crappy airport hotel. Your wedding night *is* extremely special cause its your first night as husband and wife, not because of where you are. Besides, airport hotel is not screaming special.
Post # 14
Are there any small B&B type places? Of course I’m sure all those in Hawaii are $$$$. But there are ways to make being home special. Buy silk sheets, candles, music, stuff like that and then instead of a cheap hotel you have stuff you can use again!
Post # 15
Just beacause it would be at home doesn’t mean it doesn’t have to be special. Maybe make a picnic and have dinner on the roof of your home with sime wine. Maybe have one at a local park. Or drive to a close beach/lake/view and sit eating snacks and such. There are always ways to have a romantic night without spending a butload of money
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Your wedding night will be special no matter what. It’s a lot worse to stay at a crappy hotel (thin sheets, funny smells, scratchy towels, thin walls, bedbugs?) than at home.
If you really can’t afford it, don’t spend the money on a hotel. There must be some way to be able to afford it though. Have you thought of picking up a part time job in retail for the holidays? I don’t know how it is in Hawaii, but a lot of the time, retail stores hire extra part time employees for the holiday season. Even if you only took home $6/hour after taxes, you could make that $300 for the nice hotel in about 10 5-hour shifts.