NO RSVP Card???

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
Member
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My FSIL is getting married in 2 weeks and they didn’t send out RSVP cards because they didn’t think many people would actually send them back and she had heard from other brides to just not even bother with them. She’s just going off that formula on how much food to order. Nobody really does seating charts in our neck of the woods so that’s no an issue either. As for you accompany your friend to the wedding I would probably say no on that one. My feelings are that if she wanted to include guests she would have indicated such on the envelope.

Personally, we are doing RSVP cards though.

Post # 4
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That seems dicey to not tell people who are invited and just guess about the number of guests that will arrive.  We had a lot less than the ‘formula’ so we would have been eating a lot of food.

Post # 6
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@edisonsgirl: The basic formula says that 80% of invited guests will attend.

Post # 7
Member
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@edisongirl: “It says to take the total amount you expect to attend and multiply that by .66 and then by 1.15, this will give you a good idea on how many should attend.”

I don’t think this is necessarily the best way to go but I have been keeping my opinions to myself to avoid drama. They also aren’t doing a plated dinner…it’s catered BBQ and they are fine with having lots of leftovers. They figure they will distrbute them to family and freeze whatevers left.

Post # 9
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300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh I am too! I think they decided to not to the cards because they didn’t want the added expense of the cards, envelopes, and postage. It doesn’t make sense to me because they run the risk of spending more on food than they really need to. Whatevs…it’s not my wedding. Like I said, I’ll about avoiding drama since there’s already tension that we’re getting married 3 months later.

Post # 11
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300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Whoa! Kinda sounds to me like she just wants a lot of people at her wedding. I’ve known girls who told me (and other guests) to bring as many friends as we wanted so the party would be huge.

Post # 13
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1011 posts
Bumble bee

Actually, traditionally, guests used their own letter paper to write to the bride (or her family) to accept or decline the invitation.  Thus, a very traditional invitation would technically not include a card to RSVP.  I think brides have started doing it as a means to encourage prompt responses.

Post # 14
Member
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

we have a formal RSVP – which is basically a blank card w/ our design that says on the bottom “kindly reply by july fourteenth” – we have had a number of people write us saying that there wasn’t an RSVP card. apparently people are easily confused if there aren’t checkboxes. i don’t regret doing it this way though as lots of people have written really wonderful notes to us.

i did go to a wedding where all RSVPing was done from the couple’s website and another couple who did postcards that detached from the bottom of the invitation.

Post # 15
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875 posts
Busy bee

I have heard that RSVP cards are a new tradition as well, and all the bride needs to do is to request a response.  But I have never had an invitation not have a card. 

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