(Closed) No RSVP Rejection

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Hello Mrs. Spring, 

I am so sorry that you are feeling so overwhelmed and upset. Based on personal experience, I know for a fact that most people forget to send their rsvp back AND most people do not purchase shower gifts until a week before the wedding/event. Everything will be fine, believe me. You will get a ton of gifts and a ton of people will be attending your wedding. Most of the time, the people that can not go to events will rsvp immediately. The other people who plan to go, just wait until the last absolute minute to send in the rsvp card or do not even mail it back.

You should not be worrying about this right now. Your mom and maid of honor are the ones who needs to be making those calls to your fam and friends asking them if they plan to come to the shower & wedding. 

Be happy. 🙂 

Post # 4
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2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

For the showers- I don’t know what to say about people being rude and failing to RSVP, but in my experience, the vast majority of people wait until the last minute to purchase gifts for them (like Saturday morning before the shower).  So seeing no change in the registry doesn’t mean people aren’t coming/aren’t bringing a gift.

As for wedding RSVPs- my wedding was a little unusual. It was kind of a desination wedding so I had communicated with all of my guests ahead of time to figure out how many rooms we needed, etc.  So when they got the invites most of them already knew it was coming, had started making plans, etc.  Otherwise I think it woudl have taken longer to get responses since people sometimes need to figure out their plans.

Do you have e-mail addresses for them?  Could you shoot out a reminder about your deadline?

Post # 5
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38 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’d give a couple more weeks to see if the RSVPs roll in. If not, call those you invited to confirm their attendance. I know this is what the RSVP is for, but some people honestly do forget to send them in.  Remember to breathe!

Post # 6
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294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Lol sounds like my wedding shower and wedding! Almost all of our gifts were bought 2 or 3 days before the shower! I was starting to uhhh ‘gentley stalk’ where we resgistered at. It helps not to look at it, even tho you might be REALLY curious, it will help cut down on the stress. And about half of the people didn’t RSVP to my up coming wedding, so I just guessed 80% of the guests would show and stopped stressing about it. Good luck and coongrats! Everything will turn out fine. Just like Mr. Chapel said Remember to breathe!!!

Post # 7
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126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Awwwwwwwww that’s really sucky!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   We handed out our invites 2 weeks ago and have only got 4 replies back.  I personally hate it when people don’t RSVP to things…especially wedding things!!!!   Even when I send out Evites for parties and stuff nonwedding related you can always see who’s viewed the invite but it’s like…why don’t you REPLY!!!  If you’re unsure you can always hit the ‘maybe’ button you know?????   I totally feel what you’re feeling!! I’m crossing my fingers for you and hoping that your guests are just last minute people!  People should RSVP especially if they do NOT plan on attending.  That way the bride and groom can send invites out to OTHER people to fill in the seats!!!   Makes me MAD to think about how unresponsive people can be towards other people’s big day!!!  *hugs*

Post # 8
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681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Mrs. Spring, I can totally relate to how you’re feeling. Our wedding is less than one month away and our RSVP deadline was yesterday. Well, about 1/3 of our guests haven’t RSVPed! We did an online RSVP on our wedding website, half thinking it would be more environmentally friendly and convenient for everyone, but also recognizing that some guests might have issues with getting online, etc. 

Well to our knowledge no one has really had issues with RSVPing online… We anticipated that alot of my FI’s family members couldnt make it since he’s from across the country, but I still expected RSVPs out of courtesy…no luck. Lots of people that I know are coming havent RSVPed either. I think most are just procrastinators who forgot the deadline was this week.  Who knows.

At any rate, my mom is following up with the stragglers this week. It definitely sucks to have put that much time into making invitations and developing a website just to find that so many folks don’t even RSVP or look at the site, AND to have to spend time calling them to see whether they are going to make it…but they are important to me and I guess that’s reality.

I think alot of this planning stuff is purely for the bride!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I Used to work at a kitchen store where we had registries, Sat morning before a girls shower we would get a bunch of things off the registry take the price tags off them and wrap them. Then when ALL the shower guests came in 2 hours before, they could pick something off the list and be good to go. It was like a pre shower shopping party sometimes!~

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