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    andromeda    7/26/08   Washington

    I have a question for all you Bees.  My FI and I are thinking about having a little note with our wedding website where guests can RSVP instead of a RSVP return card in our invites.  We are trying to cut down on paper and postage.  Is this a huge faux pas?  Thanks for your input!

     
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    Niki    05/31/2008  

    I think it sounds like a great way to stay green.  Be sure to call the people who you know don't have access to the internet, or are not internet-saavy.

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    suzanno    7/12/08   Richland, WA

    I'm sure its fine... just make sure its clear (RSVP at andromeda's wedding.com or something like that).  Either way I think you end up having to call people who don't respond.

     
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    lotusmoss    May 31, 2008   D.C.

    I would say include a phone number where people can RSVP too.  With older guests or people without internet saavy, the internet RSVP can be intimidating.

     
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    mtyf       Chicago

    I think it's great, and if I wasn't so in love with paper and getting snailmail, I would have considered it too. (We recycle the envelopes and I'm saving the RSVP cards!) But yes, an option for those who aren't so internet-friendly is a must. And of course you'll have your return address on the envelope - that way people can always send you a note to RSVP if they'd really like, too.

     

     
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    PerezSistersPhotography       Rochester, NY

    When I got married we had phone and wedding website as the options for RSVPs, and it worked out great.  Nobody was confused, and believe it or not, every single person responded and we didn't have to make any phone calls.

    I think it's hard for people to get to the post office now that it's not a necessity.  Phones and computers are much easier in this day and age.

     
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    andromeda    7/26/08   Washington

    Thanks!  I feel much better now!  I can't wait to get my invites together! :)

     
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    sugardre    October 11, 2008   Southwestern Ontario

    Having been to weddings last year that did this, we are *totally* doing the paperless RSVP thing. It's a good way to save money, and to stay green. We're going to give guests the option of either phoning us with their RSVP, or doing it though a website/email - not sure which, yet. I say, faux-pas, shmaux-pas!

     
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    kleverkira    June 7, 2008   Nashville, TN

    We're doing the website/phone RSVP only as well. I think it will save a bunch of money, not only on paper but on stamps! Most people are computer-savvy enough to figure it out, and the ones that aren't can call. The invites said specifically, "RSVP at kiraandjoe.webpage.com or call 123-456-7890" so there shouldn't be any confusion.

     I'll let you know how it goes. The invites should be going out in a few weeks!

     
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    Sweeney2Be    Aug 23, 2008   Twin Cities Minnesota

    I had a friend who used a automated system for hers, a 1-800 number (I think, I know it was a long number, not like a normal home phone or anything) was on the invite for response. At a certain time when they didn't hear from certian people the servive would call and ask if they were attending. They were so professional, saved a ton on paper and took a TON of stress off my friend and her FI because they didn't have to worry about the RSVP's at all.

    (Just realized kleverkira said the same thing...lol sorry!) 

     
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    almostmrslucas    May 17, 2008   Traverse City, Mi

    we're having people rsvp through our website as well. a lot of our guests are coming from other countries, and getting stamps to include in rsvp's was a bit of a nightmare. not to mention, rsvp's online should come faster - which I'm really looking forward to!

     

     
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    Joanne    May 2008 (Michigan) & July 2008 (Boston)   Boston, MA

    i think it's totally fine. i've noticed a couple of bees have done that, but it was more complex with a special code or password to log in and rsvp.

    last year, i received an invitation that asked me to e-mail them my rsvp. that was easy too and worked out well for them since it was an email just for wedding rsvps. 

     

     
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    SBH    6/14/08   Montgomery, AL

    This is absolutely fine!! In case you need wording help, our reply card says:

    The favor of a reply is requested

    via our website

    <website address>

    On or before May 23

     
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    caliocteach    8/9/2008   California

    We are having people RSVP through our website as well.  Each gues will recive a password to log in and RSVP, once they log in their information will pop up and they can make their dinner choice.  The webisite then keeps track of all of the rsvps.  www.weddingtracker.com

     

     
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    Weddingmuse      

    I agree that it isn't necessary to have rsvp cards with return envelopes included with your invitations.  And I do like the internet RSVP option.

    But don't think that your older guests will be clueless about how to rsvp if they aren't internet-savvy and aren't presented with a postage-paid rsvp card.  Believe it or not, back in ancient times - like 15-20 years ago or so - people personally rsvp'd on their own stationery. 

    RSVP cards are a recent invention.  I think they are superfluous, and I'm not sorry to see them eliminated.

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    yiyi      

    It sounds like the website RSVP has worked out for a number of you.  How have you guys handled the RSVPs over the internet?  Like a guestbook?  A form to trigger an e-mail that gets sent to you?  Did guests have unique codes?  Other tricks and tips?

     
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    caliocteach    8/9/2008   California

    If you use a website like wedding tracker or the one offered from the knot, their program does all the work for you.  I read through a bunch of information on different site options and decided to go with weddingtracker.  You can go to http://www.weddingtracker.com/  for more information.  There are tons of sites available out there.  Just do your homework so you know what you are getting.

     
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    Weddingmuse      

    I just rsvp'd on a couple's website on The Knot.  Super easy - you just type in your name.  Unfortunately, I got a message that it didn't recognize us, but that an email would automatically be sent informing the couple of our response.  I figured it was just The Knot, and considered it done.

     
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    taaliza    06/21/2008   Atlanta, GA

    For those that used both the website and a phone option - how did you word your "RSVP" informing them what to do? Thanks!

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    Angel    July 15, 2005   Snohomish County, Washington State

    We said...

    "Please RSVP no later than July 1, 2005

    123.123.1234 or firstnameandfirstname2005@domain.com"

     
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    peihan17      

    Yup, same as Angel here!

     
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    tav79    10/10/2008   New York

    I have a question.  For those that really aren't computer/internet Savvy to RSVP online, if you provided them with a phone number, did you use your own or is there something you can set up?  If it is something you can set up via a hotline or something, can you please share where you set this up?

    Thanks!

     
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    peihan17      

    I seem to recall someone mentioning a company that will do that for you.  We don't have many people on our list (<50), and almost all are friends from school, so I didn't think twice about just giving out our cell numbers. 

     I just tried googling "rsvp phone automated service" and it pulls up a number of companies.

     
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    Angel    July 15, 2005   Snohomish County, Washington State

    We gave our home number. I mean, if we were comfortable enough to have them come to our wedding, then we were comfortable enough to give our home number. Most of our guests had it anyway.

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