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I've had the same question!

We had online RSVP to be a little "greener" and most people either RESVP'ed right away or waited till the last day. I really don't want to have to feel like I'm hunting down folks that didnt RSVP, especially since their lack of reply LIKELY means they arent coming but didnt get around to/felt bad about declining.

I asked our moms to help in contacting family members who hadnt RSVP'd, and that was pretty straight forward. They just called and cleared it up. As for old friend, college buddies, etc. Neither me or FI feel like hunting them down...we sent a few emails but that's about it. I'm going to assume they arent going to make it....

Yep, give them a call, especially since they are family. You can wait a little like Mr. Chapel said. You can also pass this on to your mom or dad (depending on whose family it is) and tell them you are too busy to make the calls (which, you just may be!)

Has your RSVP date passed?  Then yes!  Call!  You need a number for your headcount!  If no, then wait until about 2 days after (give the post office some time to catch up).

i set my rsvp date almost 2 months before the wedding because I know people will be lagging and I plan on waiting 2 weeks pass the RSVP date to call anyone who hasn't responded. luckily for us, we know the majority of people who will be coming but I hope when the time comes, its not a pain...

We'll be at this point on Saturday...RSVPs are due Friday.  I'm going to give each of our parents a list of people to call and we'll have our own list.  I definitely think you should call though.

West Coast Groom said the sam ething--if they haven't responded by now (t-minus 3 weeks!) then they aren't coming, whether they intend to or not.  Luckily for us, our wedding is in a rural area and guests can't really just show up unexpectedly (as in, after people RSVP'd we sent them a map and more details on the place, so those who haven't RSVPd are unlikely to know what road to turn off etc etc).  I am aware of all the many reasons why people don't RSVP, but it doesn't really change the fact that it feels extremely rude to me, so I just really didn't (and still dont) want to have to hunt people down.  We did, however, spread the word through our parents about people in their various circles who hadn't responded, and many promptly replied as a result.  I say you don't have to call people up, and you can just plan on them not attending, but since they're family it would be safest to spread the word through family members that that is your assumption, and that will likely trigger anyone who is just dragging their heels to get back to you.