Post # 1
We are t-minus 17 days away from our wedding. Do I need to call people who have not sent RSVPs? My Fiance says no. I really do not want to call but I also really do not want surprises…if you dont rsvp but show up there will not be food for you! To top it off these are cousins… Thoughts?
Post # 3
I’m not 100% sure on this one, but I think you do need to call. I’m dreading having to do this as well, but I’d rather suffer a slightly uncomfortable phone conversation than suffer even more akwardness if I don’t have enough seating at the reception, etc. Maybe you could ask your mom to make the calls?
Post # 4
Give them 7 more days. If still nothing, call them.
Post # 5
I’ve had the same question!
We had online RSVP to be a little "greener" and most people either RESVP’ed right away or waited till the last day. I really don’t want to have to feel like I’m hunting down folks that didnt RSVP, especially since their lack of reply LIKELY means they arent coming but didnt get around to/felt bad about declining.
I asked our moms to help in contacting family members who hadnt RSVP’d, and that was pretty straight forward. They just called and cleared it up. As for old friend, college buddies, etc. Neither me or FI feel like hunting them down…we sent a few emails but that’s about it. I’m going to assume they arent going to make it….
Post # 6
Yep, give them a call, especially since they are family. You can wait a little like Mr. Chapel said. You can also pass this on to your mom or dad (depending on whose family it is) and tell them you are too busy to make the calls (which, you just may be!)
Post # 7
call them now! They are the rude ones not you. just say you have not recieved their rsvp and you were concerned it might be lost!
Post # 8
Can you shoot them an email? I hate making phone calls, but an email we sent out last week encouraged a whole slew of RSVP’s. If not, I totally second having your mom (or Fi’s mom, whichever is applicable) call. Good luck!
Post # 9
Ask your MOH or parents to do it… they should just say "We have not recieved an RSVP from you yet. So and So would love for you to attend, but understand if you cannot. However, since a meal is going to be served, and an exact head count is needed for the caterer, a definite answer is requested" or something polite like that.
HOnestly, most people dont understand RSVPing… they think they dont need to, that you should just know they will be there.. or some people think they can wait til the last day to decide.. a little reminder isnt rude at all!
Post # 10
I didn’t want to make these calls either but, since I found out that a person has not received their invitation I’m afraid if I don’t call then they will think they were never invited. UGGH one last think to worry about, right?
Post # 11
Has your RSVP date passed? Then yes! Call! You need a number for your headcount! If no, then wait until about 2 days after (give the post office some time to catch up).
Post # 12
i set my rsvp date almost 2 months before the wedding because I know people will be lagging and I plan on waiting 2 weeks pass the RSVP date to call anyone who hasn’t responded. luckily for us, we know the majority of people who will be coming but I hope when the time comes, its not a pain…
Post # 13
I’m calling/emailing folks who have’t RSVPed to our wedding and our reply-by date was the 18th. It’s kind of annoying but I figured I’d rather be safe (and get actual responses) than sorry (when more people show up than we planned).
Post # 14
I think you do need to call or try to divide it so you/FI/ parents/ each make some calls.
Ugg, and if you think the non RSVPers are annoying, wait until you deal with those who RSVP "yes" and don’t show…..
Post # 15
Definitely follow up with a phone call, whether you call yourself, or have your mom or FMIL call. We had a BUNCH of non-responders, so I asked my parents to call all of our family & friends, and his parents to call theirs.
We followed up with our own friends. And my FI had one friend who he didn’t call and just assumed was a "no." His friend called last night to tell us he’s thinking about coming… so it goes to show that just because you think they are a "yes" or a "no," they might not be….
Post # 16
We’ll be at this point on Saturday…RSVPs are due Friday. I’m going to give each of our parents a list of people to call and we’ll have our own list. I definitely think you should call though.