Post # 1
I started getting my Responses and many people I was expecting to come answered No. I admit it did hurt alot especially some family also some colleagues that I was expecting. When I pictured my wedding I pictured all these people there and now their not coming :(…I always say yes to every party I get invited to (if nothing major comes up) but now I feel so hurt because I know alot of these people are just making excuses. One of my cousins actually said the reason shes not coming is because her boyfriend is very jealous and when i said to bring him along she replied that he doesnt want to attend because he doesnt know anybody…..am I over exagerating??? Or maybe its all the stress of the preparations that is making me over emotional.
Post # 3
Are you having a wedding that’s far away for people?
Post # 4
Many people are still haviing a rough time in this economy. Try not to take everything personally.
Post # 5
Your wedding is #1 to you, and not anyone else. I had a few no’s that made me sad too, but sometimes life gets in the way of other plans. Don’t dwell on them and enjoy your wedding day!
Post # 6
@princesspink: Yeah, your cousin’s excuse is obviously BS, either that or she has an excessively controlling boyfriend…
It’s hard not to take No’s personally. Some of mine have totally valid reasons, so I definitely understand, but if there were no apparent reason then yeah, I think I would be really sad/hurt. Even the ones that I understand, still make me sad. The mutual friend who is the only reason FI and I ever got together isn’t able to come, and even though I understand why, it still sucks. *hugs* Just wait til the Yes’s come in 🙂
Post # 7
Don’t take it personally. It’s sad that your cousin has a relationship like that. On the bright side at least they are rsvping “no” instead of “yes” and just did not show anyway. I’m sure the most important people in your life will be there. It’s better to have 4 quarters than 100 pennies anyways. Wedding planning can be so stressful, don’t let a few people rsvping no get you down.
Post # 8
Your cousin’s reason is a bit sad (and scary in the domestic violence sort of way) but people do have lives and things are hard. I had my poor cousin wait until the last minute becuase I live several hundred miles away and was having car issues. My car made it there and back but died right after.
People do their best…don’t be personally offended. Most brides have more people who are being cruel about not comming than those who bow out kindly in the beginning. If they are good friends/family do a nice dinner with them. If not, then you wouldn’t of wanted them there anyway.
Post # 9
I know it can be a downer when people you thought would say yes end up saying no but that’s better than them saying yes and not showing up, that would piss me off (unless some type of emergency came up).
Sounds like your cousin is full of it though.
Post # 10
I hear ya – we’ve invited 76 people but the ideal guest count would be 50. I think we’ll be lucky if we hit 30. Our wedding will require about 80% of our guests to fly in or drive (4+hours) and it’s in the dead of winter in Michigan. We wanted an intimate wedding to start off with so 30 is pretty good but 50 would make it a bit more party-like.
Hang in there. Lots of NO RSVPs are discouraging. But look at it as less to spend!
Post # 11
My father is not coming to my wedding becuse I asked my mom to walk me down the aisle so he is not coming to the wedding and he said I am no longer his daughter. Because of it all of my aunts and uncles that are related to him are spiting me and now I am getting all NO rsvp’s from all of them. Trust me I know what you mean by it hurting because you wanted to share that day with them but in the end the people that you love and care about most will be there no matter what, I have learned that alot of people show their true colors when it comes to weddings, try not to take it to heart and no matter what you are going to have a wonderful day either way!