(Closed) “No” RSVP’s buy gifts before “Yes”?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
16216 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Yep, that’s how it worked for us. When people realized they couldn’t attend, they bought a gift online, which was then delivered to my house. Many of our “yes” guests brought gifts and cards to the wedding.

I sent thank-you notes as I received gifts, even the ones before the wedding.

Post # 5
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We received quite a few gifts before the wedding (from Yes’s and No’s).  I still sent out the thank you cards in advance.  I figured it would be better to knock them out quickly then to get back from the honeymoon and have to do all of them then.

Post # 6
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We had a lot of that, too! I just set a personal rule of sending out thank yous within 3 days of receiving the gift as long as it was a week out from the wedding or more. This made my list so much shorter after the wedding, and people really appreciated hearing that I received their item, especially if they can’t make it. 

I found the no folks sent something right away once they RSVPed, where yes folks either waited until closer to the wedding or brought the gift to the ceremony or reception. It’s just a total mix bag, but I suggest a spreadsheet of who, what, when received, when thank you sent. You’ll be soooo happy later when you’re popping off thank yous like a champ 🙂

Post # 7
1306 posts
Bumble bee

Jealous – no one who couldn’t come to the wedding got us anything (and a few who came didn’t, either…) 

(Not to sound greedy…!!) 

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