Post # 1
i worked on this A LOT and just couldn’t solve the puzzle of who to seat with whom so i’m thinking of NOT having any table numbers and seating assignments and just letting people seat themselves. Good Idea? Bad Idea? i don’t have divorced parents or family feuds so i really don’t think it’ll be an issue. Plus, i’ll save a few bucks on place cards, holders, and all that good stuff? Has anyone been to a reception like this?
Post # 3
I always envision a scramble for tables so people sit with who they want the most and then people get left out. It’s just a mad dash! I went with assigned tables but not seats. I went to ONE wedding like this and the family tables were reserved but people were definitely placed in strange places. Plus there were extra tables to compensate for the “i don’ twant to sit at that table” dilemas. Whereas people are consolidated better with assigned tables.
My place cards were my favors–you can print out on perforated paper from Staples, etc!
Post # 4
We didn’t do assigned seating and it was fine. I ran out of time anyway to make the charts and table #’s and things anyway. I think it worked out well because people could sit by who they wanted, and for example, some of our quieter low key guests sat a ways back and our noisier more social guests sat more upfront. Also guests that had not seen each other for a while were able to sit closer to one another to catch up, and so on. I think it worked out great.
Post # 5
I’m leaning toward no assigned seats as well. I think that’s a good idea. If you’re struggling with it though, would the people themselves struggle as well?
Post # 6
i’ve been to a wedding that didn’t have assigned seats and i didn’t care. I think it’d be an issue if some of my guests had beef with each other, but they don’t. we shall see…
Post # 7
We assigned tables for the tables our parents hosted. Everyone else had open seating, and it turned out really well. 🙂 My only advice is to have a little extra seating, maybe one or two extra tables depending on your guest list. It solves the problem of people having to split up just to fill empty seats.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t do it, but ultimately it’s up to you and your guests, some people would do better with this than others. I wouldn’t want my guests to feel like a kid in the cafeteria looking for a table. As a guest, I like knowing where I’m sitting.
Post # 9
It really depends on how many guests are coming to your wedding.
If you have a medium-sized (or larger!) wedding, I’m a firm believer that you need a seating chart. I’ve been a few weddings without a seating chart, and it’s been a mess every time. It has nothing to do with family drama, etc. It’s more about the fact that the numbers don’t necessarily work out. For example, say you’ve invited a group of college friends, and five of them show up. If you had a seating chart, you would probably put the five together at one table (so they can be totally comfortable,enjoy the evening, catch up, etc.). If there are no seating charts, once that group of friends makes it into the reception, there might not be five spaces open at a table. People then have to split up and sit at different tables. It’s not the end of the world, but having a seating chart helps alleviate some of the hassle/pressure for the guests. I guess what I’m saying is that, as a guest, I’ve ALWAYS appreciated a seating chart.
Additional comment!!! When I say seating chart, I really just mean having assigned tables. I don’t think it’s necessary to actually tell each person where they will sit at the table – just assign folks to a table and let them figure out the seating once they get there. Like I said before, this is just my experience, but I’ve been to a few large-ish weddings that didn’t have table assignments, and every single one of them was a mess in that initial “mad rush” to find a table…
Post # 10
We went to a wedding a month ago where there weren’t any seating charts or table numbers and it was chaos. People were scrambling to find seats together, families got seperated because three people would sit at a table for six, we had to save two tables for my FI’s family and we had to stand guard over the table to ensure we had tables. Mind you this wasn’t a huge wedding (probably between 125-150) but it was still chaotic. (It didn’t help that there were too many people and not enough seats) It was at this time that my future brother in law and his wife kindly suggested we have a seating chart to avoid the mess. I think a seating chart prevents people from being pressured to finding a seat (and having to stick by it to make sure they keep it) it may be a little extra work but I think it’ll save you a headache on your wedding day!
Post # 11
We didn’t have any assigned seating, but we had a fairly small wedding (75 people). There wasn’t a scramble for seating or anything, in fact one of my tables no one even sat at (we had extras).
Post # 12
We didn’t have assigned seating but we reserved a few tables for immediate family. It worked out really well for us.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House
I agree with Miss Cola. If you have a larger wedding and limited extra chairs, you may find your guests without a place to sit because they either a) don’t want to sit next to people they don’t know and/or b) their parties got seperated.
With 200-250 people, we are doing table assignments, not seating assignments though.
Post # 14
i would do table assignments but not seats. that’s what i’m planning to do, so you still save money on placecards!
Post # 15
Do table assignments only? I personally feel pretty awkward at weddings when I’m not told which table to sit at — and it often happens that someone we want to sit with can’t ft at our table and get split up sitting with peopl ethey don’t know. Or I’ve even seen guests move chairs around to fit themselves around a table beyond capacity, moving the place setting and everything with them.
Table assignments save you t he headache of making a whole seating chart, while keeping it nice and easy for guests, I think!
Post # 16
We not doing seating assignments either. We’re having a strolling reception with a lounge type of atmosphere and it just wouldn’t work.