Post # 1
We are having a small, afternoon brunch buffet with about 55 people. It is all close family and a few very close friends so almost everone knows eachother. I believe we will have 8 tables plus the sweetheart table.
I cant decide if I want to use a seating chart and placecards or just let our guests seat themselves wherever they wish. Do you ladies think they’re necessary? Why or why not?
Post # 2
I don’t think seating charts are neccessary. The majority of weddings I have been to (including sit down ones) have not had seating charts at them. It allows people to mingle and sit with who they feel comfortable sitting with. There was a boat wedding I went to that did have one, but that was due to how small the space was and how many tables were in the room. Good luck!
Post # 3
I only think it is necessary for 2 reasons:
1. if you have a lot of guests and you want to make sure that your immediate family/ close friends are seated in specific areas.
2. if there is a possibility for drama. Like divorced parents fighting or if your family doesnt get along with your FIs family.
If you arent worried about any drama, and you dont care where people sit then you are good. Dont bother.
Post # 4
msfreemis: We also had a small reception; seven tables for ~68 people. We had a seating chart and I am so happy we did – we were able to “blend” sides and combine interests, afterwards so many people mentioned how wonderful it had been to be seated with people they could talk to and find common ground. We put a great deal of thought into our seating chart, and I’m glad we did. Also we didn’t want couples to end up being split up.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Seating charts are useful if you have a limited amount of space, and don’t want people moving chairs from one table to another to sit in bigger groups. You might end up having one table loaded with people, and another with only 2 chairs. I have been to weddings where this was totally fine. Others definitely benefit from a chart.
Post # 6
I enjoy seating charts. It takes out some of the potential awkwardness from the situation. What if the friends walk in last and wind up being spread apart among people they don’t know, when they all would much rather sit together? Or even better, the movie theatre issue of people leaving weird numbers of seats between them so everyone has to get up and shuffle up or down about 10 times before it works out.
Post # 8
I really dislike it when there’s no seating chart. You end up with some tables with too many people, others with 2 people, some larger groups might be split up, etc. Just assign tables IMO.
Post # 9
If everyone knows everyone, it might not be a problem. Otherwise, the lack of a seating chart make me feel like I’m in middle school again and have to pick a lunch table (usually not the one with the cool kids, but I’m working on letting that go…)
Post # 10
Vwinstonchurchill: all very valid points
Post # 11
I think seating charts are 100% necessary. I don’t care if everyone is best buddies, you will have those who want to sit near each other and those that don’t. I’ve been to one wedding that had no seating charts, and FI and I ended up having to sit clear across the room with strangers because the bride’s aunt and uncle, who no one else knew, took the last two available seats at the table our friends were and no one wanted to ask them to move. It put a damper on a big chunk of our night. Instead of being upfront with the rest of the bridesmaids, we were shoved in a corner. I know, wah wah wah, but it was annoying. I also tend to not trust people in big groups, so I want to make sure all of my guests are exactly where I want them.
At the end of the day, it you’re wedding and you will obviously have an assigned seat. With 55 people I don’t see it being THAT big of an issue, but I would still make a seating chart.
Post # 12
I think it depends on how comfortable your guests are with each other, I had 25 people at mine and still made a seating chart since I wanted family and friends to be at seperate tables, but even with place cards my mother ended up sitting where she wanted anyway and people ended up switching tables.
Post # 13
msfreemis: As a guest to many weddings I honestly despise seating charts. The only reason I’d have one is if it were a highly structured, stuff served meal that had to have one or people would get the wrong plate. With a buffet though I don’t think it’s necessary and I’ve always hated being told where to sit. Reminded me of grade school seating charts and not being able to sit next to my friends.
Post # 14
We had around 75 guests. They seated themselves. Our friends and family aren’t exactly wallflowers, so we knew it would work out fine.
Post # 15
msfreemis: i had around 65 people and no seating chart. i think its a waste of time. i understand htat some people are saying oh all of a sudden you are at a table with too many people… well there no seating chart.. move then.? move to the table that only has two people. thats the beauty of it. ive never actually been to a wedding where there was one.