(Closed) No seating plan?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
421 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We are having a casual country wedding and we are not having a seating plan. We are just going to put up a sign that says,

Come as you are

Stay as long as you can

Were all Family now

So no seating plan!

We’ve been to weddings where there was assigned seating and not. Both work but i like giving your guests the option. and its a lot less stress on you! 🙂

Post # 4
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ve been to several weddings where there was no seating plan, and I don’t intend to do one for my own wedding, although in all honesty, after spending too much time on this site, there’s some weird internal pressure building where I feel like I have to do a seating plan now.  FWIW there’s other stuff like favors and such that I had (and mostly still have) no intention of doing but WeddingBee puts weird ideas into my head.

That said…

Of the weddings where I’ve been a guest and there’s been no seating chart, it’s been more awkward for me as a guest if I don’t know many people there than when I know tons of people.  The most recent non-charted wedding we went to, we spent dinner with about 8 of our friends and had a ball, but the one before, my Mister knew the bride and groom, and we knew exactly zero other people, so we had no choice but to be the strangers at the table, and we didn’t linger there!  I think it will work better if most of your guests know at least someone, because people who know each other tend to gravitate towards each other.

For my own wedding, we’re having about 100 people and only assigning a table for us and our families, and another for the wedding party and their families/SO’s. 

To keep people moving quickly towards seats I’m asking two friends of mine to be “gatekeeper” types and direct folks as they arrive to the dining room. This will help prevent having to split people up, too.

And to help folks mingle we are getting some “icebreaker” type cards to put on the tables as conversation starters.

Post # 5
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

If your reception is more laid back and you aren’t doing a formal meal then it might be ok. I would just be prepared to have a lot of extra tables set up.


If it is a more traditional style wedding then I thinking sucking it up and doing a sitting chart is important. Most of my family weddigs back home do not have seating charts and it is always chaotic with people trying to save spots and move things around. When I moved and started going to weddings where I live now and they all have seating charts it is so much easier for your guests. We assigned tables, but not chairs and it worked out great!

Post # 6
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would say at least assign tables. Let’s say that tables seat 8 and you have 8 friends who all know each other, but they just came from the ceremony and don’t know who is invited. 2 sit at table A, and 6 sit at table B. Table B only has enough room for 1 couple. Or let’s say your table seats 8 and 12 people know each other. They won’t all fit at 1 table, so they have to make the awkward decision of who sits at the overflow table, which may be all the way across the room because the tables around them filled up. 

You also run the risk of having close and important friends and family stuck in the far back while your college friend’s boyfriend sits front and center. 

Post # 7
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If you do is, whatever you do… Don’t put alcohol on the table. I had an incident at a friends wedding..

We had no assigned seating, so we took our seats at a table in the middle. A group of younger teenagers gather together and sat at a table behind us. They proceeded to drink both bottles of sine, and one girl ended up knocking the entire table over. Glass smashed everywhere and I helped the clean up since the kids high tailed it out of the room right away.

If you don’t have any alcohol or unruly teenager/kids attending then you’ll probably be fine. I would just be wary about it is all.

Post # 8
598 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m not doing a seating chart either.  I figure people are adults, they should be able to choose where they sit.  We are having a buffett dinner, so a seating chart to me is just another thing to fuss and worry with.  I opted to eliminate it from my stress making opportunities…

Post # 9
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve never been to a wedding with a seating chart but I do see some bee’s stressing over them a lot. Personally we won’t have one, my family is huge and likes to socialize so no one would end up staying in their designated seat lol.

Post # 10
1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m not a fan. I think you should at least assign tables…however, if you don’t want to do a seating chart, at bare minimum, make sure you have enough seats and enough tables for everyone to have a seat. Oh, and be diligent about tracking down every single one of your RSVPs so that you know exactly how many people are coming. If you do both those things, you’ll probably be ok.

Post # 11
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m definitely doing a seating chart.  Unless your friends all come in groups of 8 or everyone knows each other, it may be awkward, especially if someone comes in late.  What if the only 2 available seats for the last couple wind up being at seperate tables? or two couples that are friends but know no one else are forced to sit apart?  or your loud college roommate winds up at a table with grandma and grandpa?

Post # 12
11342 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Unless you’re from an area where you’ve never attended a wedding with a seating plan, I really think you should have one.  There was a thread regarding this a short while ago.  I am posting it for you, below, in case you find it helpful:


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