Post # 1
I’ll admit it, I’m not one of those people who have saved myself for marriage- whoops….
My fiance and I have lived together for a while, we recently just bought a house, and got a puppy (well 6 months ago!) … So I was thinking “what the hell is going to be exciting the night of the wedding or the day after!!? What is there to look forward to” (Well besides being a MRS. to the love of my life)
So I told my fiance that maybe we should try to refrain from sex for an entire month before the wedding.. We have a very healthy sex life so this is VERY HARD. haha 🙂 Needless to say … We have a little over 1.5 weeks left wahoo.. Okay I’ll admit I did cave once last week but other than that its been good! It adds a little extra excitement to the night of and is giving us something more to look forward to!!!
Any other brides have anything like this that your doing???
Post # 3
We did the exact same thing! Way to go, you can do it! The wedding night was the BEST!!!!! 🙂
Post # 4
We didn’t do anything different, and our wedding night was just as special. 🙂
Post # 5
we tried to do something like this. haha. it didnt work for that long ! if you do something like that or not you wedding night is still special.
Post # 6
@RachelM: My Maid/Matron of Honor and her Darling Husband tried to do that before their wedding. It didn’t work, and also they wouldn’t have had the energy on their wedding night. Both were exhausted when they left their wedding.
I’m not even going to attempt that, the sex will keep me sane that close to the wedding!
Post # 7
I actually don’t see the point of this whatsoever.
Different strokes I guess! It sounds like you’re having fun with it at least. 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
We didn’t change our normal behavior before the wedding but we did decide that once we were married, we’d stop using condoms. Darling Husband grew up very religious and is less so now but still felt lingering guilt about having sex and he said it was amazing to have that lifted when we got married. Our wedding night was fantastic and very special and I can’t imagine that it would’ve been any different if we had stopped for a bit.
The only thing we did different night of was that I bought lingerie. We usually don’t bother with that kind of stuff… I mean, when we’re in the mood it’s a little too spontaneous to go change into lingerie, but we made a point to kind of enjoy that sort of silliness on our wedding night and during the honeymoon. We had way more sex than normal and really great sex that whole time. Just knowing you’re married will honestly make it super special.
Post # 9
Stopping before the wedding is really silly. I think at least.
You’ll be married and on a high from that! Why would abstaining from sex just before change that? I’m having the best sex of my life, I plan on having it right up to the night before.
Post # 10
We abstained for a couple months before the wedding, for reasons beyond just “making it special.” It was difficult for me, I won’t lie. But married sex is nice. 🙂 You’ll enjoy your wedding night regardless.
Post # 11
We didn’t have sex before marriage but we did something sort of similar in that the week before the wedding we actually didn’t see each other at all!
Post # 12
First time round…
My Ex-H and I were living together. I went home to my Parents the week before the Wedding to take care of last minute details etc. And he was at the Hotel the night before the Wedding, and I was with them (have sweet memories of our kiss and parting when the Rehearsal Party broke up)
Don’t have any real memories about the sex being incredible on our Wedding Night… just that we both kept saying… “Wow, I don’t believe we are really and truly married now”
We went off to our Hotel, had a shower, unpacked out suitcases … and found a ton of confetti family members had planted in them… (TIP – DON’T TRUST ANYONE), killed ourselves laughing… and I slipped into my white wedding lingerie… we drank a bottle of champagne… did the deed… and fell asleep in each others arms (you will be amaze at how EXHAUSTED you are by the time the Wedding Day is done). It was everything I wanted it to be … IT was waaaay more as I said about the realization that we were married and a loving, comfy, happy couple.
This time round…
Lol, not sure how much sex we’ll have in the timeframe leading up to our Wedding. I figure we’ll be both stressed during the countdown… with trying to tie up loose ends at work, wedding plans etc.
Mr TTR and I are travelling to our Elopement / Destination Wedding together. And I’m planning to spend the night before apart… in a Hotel Suite so I can have some time alone to get ready the next day… and surprise him when he first sees me “as a Bride” (it’ll be the same suite we have for our Wedding Night, which makes it easier for logistics with luggage etc).
All I know, is I am hoping for an AMAZING Wedding Day… and that the LOVE that we share will carry us thru into our Honeymoon, and our lives together.
PS… FYI – I thought you might want to know, that “absence can make the heart grow fonder” (and some other bits too, lol). Mr TTR and I are apart often enough for work trips, Girl Getaways, Guy Golf Trips etc… and the sex is always good when we reconnect (some of the best, I dare say… every time has been memorable)
Post # 13
FH and I don’t really plan to do anything special. We live together, have pets together and we didn’t save ourselves for marriage but I imagine it will be enough that we’re married to make it fun.
Post # 14
I can totally see why this would be a cool idea. For us, (TMI Alert) we are saving my receiving of oral for the honeymoon (I know, that is crazy and was totally my idea!) and he will also never see me in lingerie until the night of our wedding. As far as not having sex up until the wedding, idk about that. We both have a semi-weak sex drive as if recent (tired I think) so it’s just not something I can really think of right now being such a challenge as to warrant making it a rule. Gosh that sounds terrible lol. We do love sex, we have just slowed down in the last couple months.
Post # 15
@Kat: I like the lingerie idea to!!!! Although I think the no sex is ENOUGH for my fiance for 1 month haha!
Post # 16
@This Time Round: Thanks for the long respsonse!!! You seem so happy and excited for your marriage, best wishes to you!! I also liked the ” absence can make the heart grow fonder “! I’ll have to use that on my fiance this next week haha!! Goodluck with wedding planning!!