(Closed) No sex in first trimester?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You might not feel like it anyway, TBH, so I guess it depends. If you want to have sex then you should keep talking to him. Or take him to your next Dr’s appointment. He might believe it more from a doctor that it’s okay.

ETA: Congrats on your pregnancy, by the way! FX for a happy and healthy  nine months.

Post # 4
1272 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Monny:  every book I’ve read says that it is perfectly safe to have sex, and to orgasm, throughout a healthy problem-free pregnancy. of course I understand your husband’s caution, but as long as there is no spotting, you should be fine. What to Expect and other books give this info if you want a more ‘reliable’ source than me 🙂 don’t worry if you have some cramping afterwards – it’s perfectly normal and doesn’t cause miscarriage.

If you’re lucky, it will be even better than pre-pregnancy sex 😉 All the very best with your pregnancy.

Post # 5
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Hold off until your first dr appointment and take him with you. If you have sex and miscarry again, he will blame himself or you even though they are not related. A few weeks won’t hurt and he will probably feel better after talking to the dr and seeing the US picture.

Post # 6
1760 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We had sex the weekend after getting my BFP, and it caused spotting. We both freaked out and made an emergency appointment with the dr the following Monday. She said its normal because of more blood flow down there… But to go easy. So I would definitely wait until after your appointment and bring the husband. 

Post # 7
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d talk about it with him and the doc at your next appointment.

Post # 8
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve never heard that it’s not safe, but if it makes him feel better and you’re not suffering for it, then I guess no harm in not doing it for a while??  At least until after you see your dr for the first time and he can ask him/her himself.

I didn’t have morning sickness in the first trimester, and wanted to do it ALL THE TIME so I would have been in pretty bad shape if I was being refused, but you very well might not feel like it soon anyway, so it may be a moot point.

Post # 9
4583 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with the advice to talk to your doc about it – with your Darling Husband present. That will hopefully set his mind at ease.

I know I didn’t always feel like having sex during my first trimester, but when I did, it was pretty fantastic so I hope your Darling Husband comes around!

Post # 10
2545 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Monny:  Sex likely did not cause your miscarriage, however now that we are pregnant after 2 mc’s my Dr strongly suggested that we do not have sex in the first trimester. It’s not worth the risk or worry. I didn’t really feel like it anyway so I was fine with that and my Darling Husband too. We managed. It’s only 3 months. You have the rest of your life to have sex.

Post # 11
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’d hold off until your first doctors appointment and then take him with you and have him hear from your doctor how having sex is just fine during pregnancy.

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