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My DH suggested this about a month before the wedding. It surprised me as sex is a *really* big deal for him, more so than your average guy. We agreed to try it but kept forgetting :) Really, when you're used to it every day it was easy to get halfway through and then say "oh that's right, we weren't going to do this." But, sex is a big part of our relationship and is the way we reconnect and de-stress at the end of the day - and really, we needed both those things even more than normal coming up to the wedding! It didn't make the wedding night any less special to us. But it would have been fun to try :)
We are going to attempt to do this too. But we agreed to 6 months prior to the wedding. lol....I guess we will see what happens.
This would never be an option for me. I couldnt make it 2 days!
The only reason that we went 3 weeks before the wedding is because my father was living with us. He had heart surgery, and was sleeping in the next room. Kind of hard to disappear for 45 minutes, or keep it THAT quiet in the room next door.
So we went without. Wouldn't say it made anything any more special.. we already knew what to expect when the time came back around again :)
I personally do not understand why people do this before the wedding. My FI and I are going through several stressful life events right now and we are also in the final stages of planning our wedding. We live together and are enjoying the sex. I honestly think that sex helps us de-stress and make time for one another. To each their own, but FI and I will not be taking any kind of break before the wedding.
We are stopping one month before the wedding...that was FI's idea. He thinks that will make it more passionate and meaningful on the wedding night. I told him we'd both probably be too tired and/or drunk the wedding night to do it! But he wants to hold out a month so we will do that because it was his request and it means something to him :) ... but we will definitely be doing it before he leaves for his bachelor party! lol
We're not taking a break. It didn't seem like it would really do anything for us. If anything, it would just mean that the wedding night sex would be really short! And that's no fun for me...
Ha.. we're in the middle of this. It's been a couple weeks since we started this and we have 9 days to go. HOnestly, i think it's fun. With all the stress of planning and working so much, i was always tired it seemed. Now, It's like a new romance again, you get all the desire, passion and anticipation, but know that it can't happen for another week!! I can't wait till our wedding night.
We didn't do that. We needed it for stress reduction and to unwind and just to be "close" with the last crazy few hectic weeks. To each his own, but neither of us even thought to do something like this. We wouldn't have lasted a week I'm sure. lol
We're doing this for a month before, but only because we are LDR and are about 900 miles away from each other. He'll be coming home on leave on August 7th, and we're getting married on the 11th, so we'll be together for a few days beforehand and spending the nights together (except for the 10th), and we'll have to resist the urge to give in to temptation, but the LDR makes it easier to wait, and the extra four days after that really doesn't seem like that big of a deal.. Although, he put up a fight at first when I suggested it ;)
We were gonna do this, at my suggestion. My husband wasn't totally sold on the idea but he would of gone with it. It never ended up happening. I think we ended up abstaining for the last 2 weeks, and that was more about the nonstop running around and pure exhaustion than it was to make the wedding night more special.
Well, I have gone 8 months or so without it due to deployment and then another 3 after he left to go finish deployment...so I am not waiting or postponing anything for the wedding day. We have waited long enough. lol.
We tried this. We originally wanted to stop 1 month before the wedding. Then we decided 2 weeks was plenty of time to abstain. We lasted about a week before we cracked! But I can honestly tell you, whether abstaining or not, our wedding night was amazing and different and special in so many ways...we were married and our emotional connection was better than it has ever been!
oh wow! I was all impressed with myself that we were thinking of waiting a week lol...I'm super impressed with you ladies.
6 months! thats half a year charmedlife357 !
I think thats awesome though, I might try to extend it a month. I'm already going to be stressed though and I get cranky if we go without.
Honestly, I agree with @jaylii9. I think there are a lot of couples who don't have sex on their wedding night - most are just too exhausted (or drunk) after the reception to even think about sex. I know sex was the LAST thing on my mind! It was nice to get a good night's sleep and then make up for it in the morning. ;)
We're doing this! We haven't done it since April! It has really amped up our anticipation level!
Another main reason I wanted to wait for a while is because I'm Catholic and believe sex before marriage is technically a sin, and I wanted to kind of purify myself and make it sincere when I confess it tomorrow and get washed clean!
@marjojo: Fiance and I are doing the same thing b/c we're Catholic. We wanted to be sincere.
My personal opinion is that suddenly removing sex from a relationship that was going fine until then can cause tension between the couple if they are both not 100% for it. There are so many other causes of stress and tension leading up to the wedding, I don't understand why anyone would want to add another one. On our wedding night, we were exhausted and so ready for bed - and we were back to the hotel by 10:15!!
I guess it's good if both people are 100% for it, but if one person is hesitant, it can cause tension and you might not feel as connected as usual.
We'll be taking a break, but not because we planned on it. We live 2 hours apart, and the month before the wedding I'm going to be back home finishing up last minute details and getting ready to move. So, we probably won't get a chance for some serious alone time beforehand. That's why we'll probably be taking a break. ;)
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My FI has reluctantly agreed to my proposal of not having sex for 2 months until our wedding day. today's the 2nd day, and i am confident that he can hold it for that long :P my intention is to make it more special for the night of the wedding.
did you do it/have you tried it/will you do it?
what are your thoughts about this idea?