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My venue told me that it reflects poorly on them and could cheapen an important and formal event like a wedding. That was in addition to their consumption rules of course.
Yeah...my first thought was that it's kind of tacky to be doing shots at a wedding, especially if it's a more formal venue. I think the alcohol consumption thing is a really good point, though; it's a lot easier to get wasted in ten minutes if you're doing shots, and venues probably don't want their property destroyed by raging drunks.
I think that if my venue doesn't have this policy, I'll post a sign myself and pretend it's the venue's bidding...
We are having a no shots rule at the wedding, it is my choice though, and not the venues ... I want my wedding to have a more formal feel to it, and the shots just don't work ...
i thought about the tackiness of it...but i didn't think they would make a rule just because they think it's tacky. to one person it could look cheap, but to others it could be tradition.
to each their own, i suppose!
Although I think that those who have a shots tradition for weddings must be a fun bunch 
, it's probably mostly a liability issue...
most of the places i have talked to made it a liability issue - since 4-5 shots and something is gonna get out of hand... :)
Liquor laws are so strict now that venues have to watch their backs...we don't allow shots at our hotel...its not worth it to serve shots and really, it looks bad at certain venues ..we don't serve long island iced teas either...or red bull with booze..that is a bad combo! people get sick real quick! 
it's got to be liability. kind of bums me out...just because my mother and all of her sisters have kind of made jose cuervo a tradition in our family that comes out at every event, and i always envisioned all of us in our dresses, with out hands held high doing a shot. but just A SHOT because i'm not about to have 20, 5-foot-nothing woman with huge laughs and spitfire personalities wasted at my wedding. lol.
@leelee...you aren't kidding about long islands or energy drink/liquor combo! those things can get nasty!
I am only having wine, beer and champagne at my wedding.
So shots will not be an option.
i imagine is for the control... but other reasons i dunno... call me tacky but im using shots in my wedding... but i have a lot of tacky stuff in my wedding like color dress, a back yard wedding and others stuff!!! funny thing is i meet my FI having shots on halloween day...
but in a venue i imagine is to keep control of the crowd and dont get to much people drunk... (of course there are other ways to get drunk without shots) :)
@jenn: I've had to go find grooms before in the bathrooms because they INSISTED on having redbull with vodka !! so we decided no more of that crap! he was wasted and throwing up all night...nice...poor bride...Italian wedding always argue that they HAVE to have a shot of sambuca...that its good luck..I'm like..here, its on the rocks..go find a creative way to shoot it now...
@magenta...i'm RIGHT there with you! i'm not quite the traditional girl and i think a lot of people may not think the highest of my wedding choices but everything will reflect well on my FI and I. :)
@ leelee - hah! i guess on the rocks will be good enough. my FI and I aren't really going to be drinking but my family really knows how to party, so i'm thinking it's actually probably a really GOOD thing my venue doesn't allow for shots. that way i wont have to hire bouncers to throw out some of my rediculous family members.
I've been to a couple weddings with no shots policies but when the groom came up and demanded shots and offered tips..magically shots appeared for the bridal party. No shots glasses so they just poured a little liquor into regular cups.
I think a no shots rule is a good policy. Things can get out of hand very quickly and I would be worried about people driving home.
Let me clarify, I don't think that taking shots at wedding receptions is inherently tacky. I just think it might become tacky, or obnoxious, at a formal wedding if your husband and his old college roommates start hammering shots of tequila or something. Casual weddings, outdoor weddings, fine! Don't get me wrong, I love to drink, and FI and I wouldn't even be together if we hadn't been epically drunk at the same party one night and ran off into the woods together. There's a time and place for everything, and a lot of people's weddings might be the place for shots, but mine won't be (very formal, held in an uber elegant turn-of-the-century mansion), which was my first thought. FI's friends are big drinkers, and we're still young, PLUS my uncle is a major alcoholic, so shots could create many horrific moments at my wedding.
Also, I've read some REALLY sad stories about the what happened after people got too drunk at wedding receptions, PLUS half of my dad's family was killed by a drunk driver and the rest of his family sort of fell to pieces after that...I just wouldn't want my celebration to be such a likely cause of a tragic, gruesome event (thank you Oprah).
@veganglam - i definitely understand what you are saying. i personally think it can become tacky when overused and it's difficult to control those who abuse alcohol, so i agree with you! maybe i'll save the shooting for the rehearsal dinner just for old times sake. :)
Hmm... while I certainly hope no one gets out of hand and can control their alcohol consumption, if it's not a venue rule I don't see the big deal. I guess that's because I went to high school in a farm town where 4-5 shots meant you were maybe buzzed. Maybe. We're not having an open bar, just beer, wine, and signature cocktails, but I was thinking of doing a bridal party shot for luck.
I'm doing my own bar (hiring staff, bringing own liquour) and we aren't going to do shots. I just don't want things to get out of hand, it is going to be enough of a party as it is.
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I have seen this at quite a few venues and was curious as to what the reason was. I'm assuming it's to keep more control over alcohol consumption, but is there another reason?