Post # 1
I just moved to FL a year ago and work from home when I’m not traveling for work, so I haven’t made many friends. My FSIL lives about an hour away and she is also one of my bridesmaids. My other Bridesmaids live in NY and AZ. My friends…scattered around NC, TX, AZ, NY, OR, CA. Family…CA, GA, AL. Needless to say, if someone threw me a shower, no one would be able to come. 🙁 I can’t think of any options, but maybe it’s not really a big deal. Thoughts?
Post # 3
Well where will you wedding be? Maybe if you planned well in advance you could get together with at least some family & friends? Then send everyone else invites to where you registered and they can mail gifts 🙂
Sorry that everyone is so scattered. Hopefully it all works out!
Post # 4
Hmm. At my shower the only representative of my husband’s family was his mom. She travels from NC to NY for it. All his other relatives were too far away to make it. Thankfully a lot of my fam and friends live in NY and could come.
What about trying something right before the wedding? If not an actual shower, perhaps just an opportunity to spend time with the women in your life. Maybe even a bachelorette-type get together where the older ladies can retire early and the younger ones can keep partying?
Or is there a central location that perhaps some of the ladies can travel to? Like Las Vegas or Chicago or something? Then you could get together for the weekend?
Otherwise I would say have a small shower with whomever can make it. Invite everyone you would want to have there- don’t just assume they can’t come. You may be surprised by some people travelling to be there. And even if they don’t make it, they will be pleased you thought enough to include them.
Post # 5
If you can’t get everyone together beforehand, perhaps you set up a luncheon the day before your wedding, if everyone would be in town. You wouldn’t have to do anything fancy… maybe even make it a brunch so its not too costly. I’m sure all of the ladies invited to your wedding would love to get together.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2009 - Beach Social Hall
I agree with maybe trying to have a luncheon the day before (or a couple days) before your wedding. I hope everything works out 🙂
Post # 7
I like the luncheon idea…thanks! I know for sure my mom will be in town all week and all of my bridesmaids will be in town at least a couple of days early. Since folks are traveling here anyway, maybe they’d be willing to come in a day early. Even if it’s just a few for lunch, no gifts or games since it’s so close to the wedding, I think that would be so nice. Why didn’t I think of that?! 🙂 TY!
Post # 8
You don’t need to have a shower. I won’t have a shower, but will have a bachelorette party in Vegas in oh…2 hours. I think if you try to get together with everyone a couple of days before the wedding, then it’ll be so much fun.
Post # 9
My mom’s cousin was in a similar situation when she moved out of state for work with her husband and got pregnant shortly after. Her friends wanted to throw her a baby shower but knew most people wouldn’t be able to travel to her so they threw a virtual shower. They sent out invitations explaining the details and everyone got on webcams or called the mom-to-be on the phone around the same time and then they made a website where they posted pictures of her opening the gifts the ‘guests’ sent. It was definitely different but it was pretty cute and creative and worked out just fine.
Post # 10
I’m just about to make a post asking if anyone chose not to have a shower. But in your case, maybe you can combine a bachelorette party with a shower? That way, everyone can gather to celebrate and enjoy time together before your big day.