Post # 1
I have a question to all the married couples who have recently gotten married.
I know it’s been discussed before, but I want to get an idea of how many “No Shows” did you end up having? We had 75 invites go out, and the total replied yes came to 105, including photographer & DJ (who we have to feed, obviously).
Our wedding is in the middle city of both our family, so about a 45 minute ride from north where his family mainly lives, and 45 south, where my family mainly lives. It’s going to be outside, under pavilion, but weather permitting, I don’t want people to bail on me if they wake up next Saturday and it’s raining….. we won’t get wet regardless, but you know how people are?
Can you all tell me your counts? And No Show amounts? And any reasons you heard why they didn’t show? And how did you handle it?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I honestly have no idea how many people actually attended. I didn’t and don’t want to know. All the important people were there and accounted for, and that’s all mattered. I did have a few empty seats, but I didn’t take the time to figure it out. The day was special, and the caterer was already paid, so there was no use worrying about it. I actually avoided the caterer’s final invoice because I didn’t want to know. We were expecting 75, though. We had a finger print tree, and it’s pretty full– that was my main concern!
Post # 4
We had 180 guests at our reception. We had 8 no shows. Never heard a reason for any of them. I didn’t really “handle” it in any way. Just noticed that they weren’t there and moved on. The only bad part was one table ended up with only 2 people at it because of the no shows that were supposed to sit with them. That looked awkward!
Post # 5
We had 99 guests and 3 no shows. One family member claimed to be working ( in reality, he was going to a friend’s wedding.) One couple just didn’t show up and gave my mom very vague reasoning when they saw her at a get together 2 months later. They never called or anything.
We were married about an hour and a half away from home, with family scattered mostly in between the two points.
Post # 6
I want to say we had maybe 10 no-shows out of our ~250 guests?
Post # 7
My situation was similar to yours. We also had our wedding in the city between our hometowns. Both of which are 45 minutes from the wedding location. We had our wedding reception under a tent that had the side walls in case it rained.
Well the morning of my wedding it was pouring! This was like at 8:30 am. I freaked out a little but put it past me because I knew it was nothing I could control and I would just have to go with it. Well thankfully it cleared up by noon and it was partly cloudy the rest of the day.
We had 140 RSVP yes and 3 people didn’t show. One was my husband’s grandfather who was feeling ill so couldn’t make it. One was my boss who claimed he got food poisoning the night before (I suspect it was a hangover). The third was my mom’s coworker who I didn’t even know but begged my mom to be invited, that was annoying. You can’t dwell on it, I had the best time of my life!
Post # 8
10% of our guestlist were no shows. At over a hundred dollars per head, I was PISSED. Unfortunately there’s not much you can do about it.
Post # 9
We had 170 people RSVP yes…I can think of 4 no shows and 2 that needed to leave early due to a melt down by the child –our ring bearer. So 6 meals went uneaten. 3 of the 4 no shows were kids (ages 8-16), who had adult meals, so YES I was extremely annoyed. The parents’ excuse was “oh they didn’t want to come with us”….THANKS. It got more awkward when 1 of the parents offered to pay for the uneaten meal for their 2 daughters….sure that’ll be $110 each please! *Sigh* too bad that would be super tacky on our part to do that. The 4th person was DH’s cousin and her 2 other sisters that did attend didn’t even bother making up an excuse.
We had delicious food and they packed it all up for us to go so, DH and I enjoyed their meals 🙂 I guess that’s what we get for being nice and inviting kids…
Post # 10
I had two no shows, but because it was Ramadan, they were not able to eat anyways. So 2 of 52 did not come but I didn’t have to pay for them.
Post # 11
We had a huge wedding – we invited 320 (yeah, I know) and I believe had 300 RSVP yes (we had a very low decline rate) and I think 6 or 8 did not show. Most were due to illness, one couple (my mom’s friend and her husband) did not show because their daughter went into labor and was at the hospital (it was their first grandchild).
Post # 12
@jolie0119: I certainly won’t dwell, it’s just a shame to pay for meals and such, and see empty seats. Just praying for nice weather at this point…. 9 days away!!
Post # 13
I had 100 people, and 0 no shows. I did have one I wasn’t expecting (my sister brough her boyfriend because “he’s my ride”). It wasn’t a big deal. I had an open spot at a table and threw him in. She tried to use him as an excuse to leave – that’s a whole other story – but I was already so happy that day that I just took it stride, told him to find a seat and have fun.
Post # 14
We had 160 RSVPed, 6 no-shows, and 2 last minute additions. So there were 4 empty seats.
One friend of mine (who added a +1) gave a bizarre long story for not coming, I didn’t really follow up on her call but I’m not mad about it either. She’s young and has no idea about the cost and effort involved. The other no-show couple was friend of my parents.
You just have to figure that no matter how annoying and rude it is, a few no-shows are part of the cost of having a wedding.
Post # 15
We’re actually expecting at least two no-shows out of about 180 guests–our wedding date is the due date of one couple’s baby! We fully expect that she will either be in labor or have just given birth, but they RSVPd yes just in case. I would say that’s a pretty good excuse.
Post # 16
@Crindy: lol, yeah, I guess that’s excusable ;o)
I had a friend who got married last year who had 160 RSVP yes and 120 showed up the day of. I didn’t ask them too many details about what the excuses were or how she’s dealing with it, though… I’m sure it must be super frustrating and I didn’t want to rehash it with her. 40 flippin people just decided not to show up!! Extremely rude!